i asked a question and they voted best ans. stay with my husband gave no good reason for divorce i'm unhappy not good enough? rekindle the spark fall in love again and again not if it's not 50 50 i disagree with the response not what i wanted to hear especially being a rn your not helping me find a solution. I did counseling he didn't go want to go now that i am leaving I already put a 6 month lease on a house to rent I can move in tomorrow thank God
2007-01-01 10:06:01 · 16 answers · asked by MAUREEN U 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
good for you...I wish you luck....when they won't even make an effort to sort things out after 20 years of marriage, it's time to move on.....I hope you find peace and happiness...
2007-01-01 10:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you figured it out.....now that does not mean you cant work on things once your gone maybe the space will do you both some good it will give you that neutral coroner to go to he will have his place you will have yours and the problem with a lot of people is they think leaving means you will not end up back together and though this can be true the facts once you leave support that idea but it is not all ways the case my in laws where apart after 25 years for 5 years but got back together and have been happy ever since they needed the break time to see what was out there and time alone and it is true unhappy on its own is not good enough but i am sure alot more things go with it that and would take to long to list so simple answer unhappy! good luck and god bless!
2007-01-01 10:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you have heard all the people say try marraige councling stick together work on it okay and you've done it all and still not happy then yes yhou can't be a dead horse. unfortunately sometimes things don't work out . people grow apart have different interests in life. need other things than what there having. So sounds like you made up your mind. well you can look back and say you had 20 years of history and good and bad times. and now you need to move on to the next chapter of your life. I'm sorry you couldn't make it work but you know what you need to be happy in life and if this isn't it then you must continue on as life is short. you will look back one day and say why did I stay . so you must do what makes you happy in the end. this way neither of you are happy. now your setting both yourselves free to find happiness you both deserve. I wish you both all the best.
2007-01-01 13:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! Life is too short to be in an unhappy marriage. I am in the middle of a divorce after 16 yrs. I hate to do this because I have 2 children. I really tried, but I also deserve to be happpy. all the best!
2007-01-01 13:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sounds like you had already made your decision. Why did ask the question?
The truth is, marriage is self sacrifice. Many statistics are taken on what caused a divorce and when they find the common factor in every divorce it turns out to be selfishness.
If you ever want to have a relationship that works, you need to get past yourself and your own wants and desires and seek out the needs of the one you "supposedly" love.
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
2007-01-01 10:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if the other answers weren't what you wanted to hear then it alls falls back to you.I feel you are in control of your own destiny(life)and if you choose to leave yourself in an unhappy relationship then stay in it.Bottom line is this no one has to tell you what you should do because when you get sick and tired of being sick and tired you will make the moveWHATEVER it maybe.Good Luck.
2007-01-01 10:10:58 · answer #6 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your unhappy and he isn't willing to go to counseling, than u certainly have reason to go. don't focus on your failures, or this bad relationship, let go of all the hurts, what has happened in your past is not as important as whats in your future. accept that u could not save your marriage, let go of it, and find happy positive people who are willing to give and do a few things your way. sometimes there is no solution to it, as we have no control over others. let the past go as there are good days ahead of u.
2007-01-01 12:04:00 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try reading "Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands" By Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Are their minor children involved?
2007-01-01 10:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Eye Candy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all i can say is good luck to you if that's what you're wanting and i hope that everything turns out good for you. Your the only one that can decide in the end what to do and it sounds like you've made your decision. Good Luck!
2007-01-01 10:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea you need some help.. Maybe spice up the sex life,send notes to him in his lunch,or just call him and tell him you love him and can't wait till he gets home....
2007-01-01 10:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by bamaguy712000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋