If so, what happened LONG after the cheating occurred?
2007-01-01 09:35:16 · 16 answers · asked by purringout 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have forigiven one of my boyfriends for cheating, but you know what hunny. It's not worth it to get back with them. Afteryou have forgiven them and are still seeing eachother, you may not realize it but trust has become an issue and you are always wondering what he's doing or if he's cheating on you again. Dont waste your time with all of that stress when you could be going out and finding someone who wont cheat on you. If they liked you that much they wouldnt need another girl to fullfill their life.. I hope ive helped =]
2007-01-01 09:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Nena 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was in a marriage where my husband began cheating on me 4 months after our marriage. I stayed with him for 7 years. Within those 7 years he left me 3 times, cheated on me so many times I can't count, and ended up abandoning me. I stayed because I am so dead against divorce. I know I had Biblical rights to leave, but I'd forgive and believe him every time. It's been 6 years since he left for good and I have never been happier. Even though I forgave him, I had a very difficult time with trust and jealousy. It was horrible. It took me a long time to realize ( I don't know why ) but it took some time for me to realize he never did love me. That's a hard concept to grasp. His little "episodes" happened about every 2 years. It was like he'd be okay for a while then boom all the sudden here comes the bombshell, he was back at it again. Like an addiction. Unfortunately he ended up marrying a girl about 12 years younger than him and he does the same thing. He'll never stop until he gives this perverse lifestyle to Jesus and ask him for help!
I'm so sorry if you're going through it.....cry out to Jesus, that's the only thing that helped me!
2007-01-01 18:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My hubby cheated on me last november(2005) and It hurt. We had been married for 5 years and one night ne cheated and the girl called and told me. For along time it was hard to look him the eyes and I cried when we had sex. For me and my hubby we was each others first. We married straight out of high school and we was really young and we have 2 kids. It was hard to think that some other women had, had sex with my husband. To this day just thinking about it makes me want to throw up. My husband cried and said it was the worst thing he had ever done and promised me that he would never go out running around again and he has kept his promise so far, He doesnt even go to the store now unless i am with him. He has tried to prove to me that he can change and he is doing a good job of it. I still wonder though if it will happen again and I still dont trust him. Its hard to live life this way but I hope it is worth it in the end. Every situation is diffrent and mine has turned out ok. Good Luck and I hope this hasnt happened to you because if so its a hard long travel to recovery!
2007-01-01 18:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kendra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES l forgave my husband almost 10mths ago. I find the forgiving is a lot easier than the forgetting. I don't know that l will ever forget. I forgave him because l love him but l also said that regardless of how much l love him there would be no more chances. We have been married 30yrs and that is just too long to throw it all away. I do not believe that he would ever do it again but learning to fully trust again is very hard. I'm just hoping that with time it will get easier. He made a mistake, he is only human and l believe he deserves another chance. We do love each other and l believe that we can work this out. We are certainly giving it our all. Hope this helped.
2007-01-01 18:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the easy part is forgiving, but the forgetting is what sucks, unfortunately I was the cheating party, and to be honest he said he forgave me but I swear he never let me forget it. Everytime I said I was going somewhere he would look at me as if I was lying about where it was I was going. I think its easier said than done and much over rated. Once you cheat you loose the trust in the relationship and from then on everything you hear seems a lie. So if you are the forgiver, try to remember that you forgave it which means if the relationship is going to move forward you should try to forget about it..................I guess
2007-01-01 18:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have, soon after marriage.~~~~Long after the cheating occurred which never happened again, we are happily married for 54 yrs., have 5 wonderful adult children, and 5 grandchildren. We are happy as a Lark. God is good.
Happy New Year to you and don't look back. FORGIVE
2007-01-01 17:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it happened 3 years ago..Forgiving is the easy part its the forgetting thats the hard part..But it takes time, And i can say our marriage is the best its ever been in 17 years..But if it ever happens again, No more chances..Its over..
2007-01-01 18:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes after five years of marriage.
We changed the rules and attitude.
Still married 25 years later.
2007-01-01 18:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I forgave someone for cheating and down the road I forgave him again, and again. Sometimes people don't change. We eventually split up.
2007-01-01 17:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by erica_m16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you let them get away with cheating they will always cheat. time to move on, do what makes you happy. this person is obviously not making you happy. when they need to cheat.
LONG after that, I learned that I deserved better than that and it was their loss. and I did things for me and not for them. im a stronger person.
2007-01-01 17:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋