I'm really not trying to sound perverted so please dont take this question the wrong way. I have a six year old niece that humps her stuffed animals. I've scolded her and talked to her about it numerous times and so have my sisters and her brother. She won't stop and some people say its a phase. Is this normal?
2007-01-01 09:34:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Oh she's not doing it in public, she does it in her bedroom with the door closed and someone might walk in on accident and forget to knock and catch her. I know scolding only compounds the problem, but for me its weird.
2007-01-01 09:40:16 · update #1
I'm a little confused why you'd scold her, unless she's doing it in public. What she does in privacy is her business, however.
Just so you're aware, female sexuality is discovered young. Most girls discover masturbation by accident, like for example .. by rubbing up against a toy .... very young, well below the age of 10.
Whether it's a phase, or whether she's discovered that happens to feel good, the only thing you should do is remind her that it's not polite to do that in front of other people. Then leave it alone. Scolding her will instill all the social stigmata of maturbation being 'dirty and evil' .. you seriously don't want to do that, it takes ages for them to overcome, if they ever do.
For the record, I was 6 or 7.
Edit for additional details: Let me get this straight. You're scolding her for doing it IN PRIVATE, in her own room, when someone else is inpolite enough to enter without knocking?
No, there's nothing wrong with this child. The adults around her however ...
Mmkay, bite the bullet and say it outright. She is masturbating. It's not weird, it's not sinful, it's not dirty. It's natural, and it feels good. She's hurting no one. You or anyone else scolding her for a perfectly natural behavior will teach her that there's something wrong with it. This girl will then spend the majority of her adult life attempting to be comfortable and not self conscious about anything to do with sex, since her first experience was being scolded for that same feeling.
She's fine. It's normal. Learn to knock.
2007-01-01 09:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jaded 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
its normal. its actually a very base form of masturbation.
you shouldn't scold her. just make sure she does it in private.
I understand your worry if someone walks in, but accidents like that can always happen.
just explain that its an activity that she has to do in private and in her room. she'll stop doing it as frequently after a while and may stop all together until adolesence.
some children how ever countinue the behavior at a lesser frequency until adolesence when they will begin to use more mature forms of masturbation.
despite how it feels for her, its not considered a sexual thing. her body is only responding to positive stimuli.
scolding her may hurt her psychy, body image, and later her adult sexuality.
although it may seem weird for you, you may just have to ignore it and make sure that she understand she isn't doing anything wrong- she's not!
but she is doing someone that is a private activity
2007-01-01 12:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 3 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old began having tantrum on an analogous time; she woulb be dreadful and he or she is the size of 5yr old so whilst she could get vatratewd there replaced into little or no i ought to do yet to easily ignore approximately it. in simple terms pay no interest to the behaviour with the aid of fact any interest regardless of if beneficial or adverse is rewarding her. It took my daughter a pair of month to understand that it made no difference to me regardless of if she carried on; so tantrum grew to alter into lots short and much less ordinary. it in basic terms a faze and it will bypass.
2016-10-06 07:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it is normal (and a phase). And you know how kids can be... the more you tell them they shouldn't do something, the more they will want to. I would just ignore it (except for of course when it is in public).
2007-01-01 09:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by KSmom24 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's normal. It feels good to her, just like scratching an itch. Don't scold her for it....that will damage her. She does need to know not to do it in front of people.
2007-01-01 09:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jack 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Fantine is completely correct. Tell the child they can not do that infront of other people.It is normal behavior and will stop once the child gets through the phase.
2007-01-01 09:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by redwidow 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Monitor what she's watchin on T.V for goodness sake!
I think that she may have found this out by herself, & not realize what it means, but by ALL MEANS try to make her stop, because believe me, you do not want her growing up to be perverted & sick.
Some have said it is rude to scold her or interrupt her privacy, but I think it is more than necessary to stop this issue. Seriously. Don't listen to these people saying leave her alone & stuff. It's a bad thing. Don't let her get used to it.
2007-01-01 09:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by beautiful disaster 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
She doesn't neccessarily know what it means. She may have just noticed that it produces a reaction in adults that she thinks is funny.
2007-01-01 09:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by coconutmonkeybank 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I used to make Barbie and Ken get it on all the time, can't remember the age though....
2007-01-01 09:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Never heard of that quirk before in a six year old. What TV shows she watching?
2007-01-01 09:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋