ok, i met this girl at a dance, and we talked and such, and i found out later that she has a thing for me, i am planning on asking her to go do something sometime this week, so i am wondering, is there anything i should make a point to do and not to do? i know to just be myself, but i am a very shy and usually am very quiet so i most times its just awkward silence, i don't know what things i should talk about. any suggestions?
2007-01-01 09:33:27 · 16 answers · asked by M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ask her questions about herself. Like if she is still in school, where does she go, has she ever lived anywhere else, what she does after school, does she work somewhere. And all of those things when she answers gives you a basis to supply the same information. Also, you can go to a movie or something, and that way your talking is at a minimal amount. Have fun!
2007-01-01 09:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk about things you would with you friends but of course not of games and how to win the game. just say things that come to your mind. if your at the movies then talk about the trailer that you just saw on the screen like "that looks scary" or "that looks funny" something of the sort. if you want to ask her a question to start a conversation then ask a question that you cant just answer with a few words. but if you really dont have anything to say then maybe it wont work out with you two. dont worry about saying anything stupid because then you will eventually think that everything is stupid and that is why there are akward silences. just be comfortable around her because if you are always stiff around her then you will have a horrible time. just open up and show yourself to her and probably she will like you even more. and you might fall for her even more too!!
2007-01-01 17:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by Tada 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Open all the doors for her, car door, restaurant door, pull out her chair if she sits. Hold hands when you walk, or have your hand on her back (just below the bra strap ~ not too low). This will make her feel special and "taken care of". As far as conversation - talk about movies, music. Ask her questions, and then share your opinions. NOT _ do not in any way bash or make fun of what she likes - even if it's Clay Aiken, Boy George, or Brittany Spears. Remember - this is America and everyone should have freedom of choice. Don't make her uncomfortable to be honest with you. Good luck
2007-01-01 17:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you answer the question when u say you should be yourself. I'm exactly the same as in i am shy and quiet too, and it is very hard to talk about things and make conversation. try and find out what she enjoys, you never know you may like the same things. Try and give the impression of confidence even though you may not feel it. Hope that helps. Good Luck.
2007-01-01 17:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by jadey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already stated that you met her at a dance and you "talked" but now you know she is keen you think you will find it difficult to talk?....... i would take her to see a film at cinema, you wont need to talk then and you will still be in her company. After film take her for a drink somewhere and then chat about film, this will probably lead to finding out more about her and she you. The night will go very quick and you wont want it to end, you know she likes dances as thats where you met her,go on to a club maybe? hopefully youll be invited back to hers for a drink, and then who knows ;-) Good luck and important thing is to relax and enjoy it
2007-01-01 17:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her to go to somewhere that you can talk and you may be surprised and find out that you have a lot in common and its incredible easy to talk to her. however if there is an akward silence say something about the way she looks ... e.g. not meaning to embarrass you but you have gorgeous eyes... something like that or the way she dresses it shows that you have taken notice about the way she looks and stuff
2007-01-01 17:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know its not very original, but you could take her to the cinema. That way you can always talk about the film if you cant think of anything else to say. Or find out what she enjoys doing and do that.
2007-01-01 17:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by fallenangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something like bowling or ice skating, that way your not sat opposite each other at a dinner table with the awkward silence.
Have you any hobbies you could both do together?
its true, she likes you for yourself, women know when men are trying to cover up their nerves, either way just enjoy yourself
2007-01-01 17:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her a bit about your-self and ask her how she's felling don't be shy just have a good time..! enjoy....
2007-01-01 17:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO ask her out.
DO NOT NOT ask her out.
its that simple.
and remeber to set up a time and date, and not just:
Do you want to go out sometime.
and then she repiles and you walk away, without saying what, when and where.
2007-01-01 18:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by taxi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋