i feel homosexuality is wrong but am not OK to express my opinion?

Question

and am told on here i'm a cr*p mother for thinking that. i have my own mind and am not swayed by others opinions why is that a reason for people to be so abusive??? i know i can't spell before you pick on that again !!!!

i may be wound up because i have suffered with pnd and feel i'm not very good as a mother due to self harm issues. and to express my opinion on this matter homosexuality and some one atack me in this way is very painful .

if my child said they were gay i would tell them how disapointed i was and how they broke my heart

Answer 1

I dont understand how being anti-gay makes you a bad mother. You have the right to your opinions just like pro-gays do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

You believe what you believe and the last time I checked it was still ok to have an opinion even if it differed from the prevailing sentiment of society. As for people being "abusive" I think it is a defensive mechanism to either bully a person into their way of thinking or at the least an effort to shut them up by playing to their instinct to avoid confrontation. This issue has been "on the books" for at least 5000 years. If it is true history repeats itself then it must be because we are not listening. The historical fact remains that the society which endorses an "alternate lifestyle" never has a good outcome. It seems also that when we say we feel homosexuality is wrong that somehow others think it also means we hate those who practice or endorse it. If you are teaching your children to love one another, care about each other, and you remain firm but loving in your beliefs, that's the best you can do.

Answer 3

Honestly if you are NOT OK to express yourself about something you feel strongly about then you are better off not saying anything at all.

People are generally abusive towards you because of the negativity in your opinion hence you don't like homosexuality so of course they will be mean. What's your reason for not liking it? How has it affected you? These types of questions are sure to follow along with a few others. Can you explain yourself and justify your opinion?

You have a right to an opinion just like everyone does else but you also have a responsiblity in being educated about what your opinion is about. You can't half-bake it and expect people not to challenge you especially when it involves something as touchy as homosexuality....you gotta get facts otherwise you are just blowing hot air and no one will take you seriously. They will be mean. They will also be mean because that type of thought can easily influence young ones and start a chain reaction of ignorance thanks to a lack of education on your part.

In cases like this some opinions are better left kept to yourself to avoid social onslaughts. You should also give your children the chance to develope and grow without your mental imput. Have you considered how life would change if one of your children was gay? Give them the chance to formulate their opinions. Hope this helps :-)

Answer 4

You need to have good reasons for speaking your opinions; What is it you do not like about homosexuality? Does the thought of a woman's fingers touching another woman's clitoris make you feel funny inside? Why is it so different for a man to touch a woman's clitoris? You have children - I presume you have had sex? Have you ever tried sex with a woman? Do you have first hand experience to say you did not like it? There are probably loads of homosexuals out there having sex right now - Are they affecting you? YOU MUST HAVE A REASON!
"Because I said so" and "Because it is wrong" are not reasons, they are people avoiding thinking because they know that if they do think then they will prove themselves wrong and no one likes to be wrong. So, either do your research and give us something to think about or stop ranting about something without solid reasoning.

Oh, and you re not swayed by other people's opinions? That's not a great quality - You should listen to other people before you decide whether what they have said makes sense to you or not before you automatically discard the idea because 'oh, If i didn't think of it, it cant be right' WAKE UP, listen to people,

Yes of course, express yourself, your ideas and thoughts but have reasons, make sure it makes sense, have back-up and proof, otherwise no one will listen and you'll end up alone and angry.

I do understand the self-harm issue - It seems hard to get out of but just STOP! I did. It's obvious you feel sorry for yourself, I guess you've had things bad in the past (or you havnt but you still feel bad) but you're just making things worse for yourself and I think you know that, don't you? If you're not happy, change. Don't go on about, oo I've got so many responsibilities, blah, blah, blah - whilst I understand that, you also have to think - Were we not born into this world with nothing? Why do we continue to pressure ourselves with responsibilitys and lifestyles we don't want. Do what you want to do - go make yourself happy!

Good luck.

Answer 5

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This is not a message board. This is not a place for conversation and opinions. This is a place for questions and answers. Yes of course your questions will imply what your opinions are, but that's the beauty of this set-up. If someone posts a question, whether the question is very conservative or very liberal, it should get answers.

Your question about school doesn't just post a question, though. It puts down an entire group of people, and that's opinion. If you had just kept it to your original question without posting the peverted comment then we'd be talking a whole different ballgame.

That being said, if your question is conservative it most likely won't get a positive response in the LGBT section... because the majority of people here are LGBT. If I went into the R&S section and asked how to keep my kids from hearing anything about Christmas while at school I wouldn't get very helpful answers, either, now would I? I would get called evil and damned to hell and so on and so on.

So yes, you are going to get heated responses to your questions here. But if people spout opinions of you instead of giving you an answer then why the heck should you care? They're complete strangers basing their opinion of you off of two sentences typed on a computer screen. Both conservatives and liberals are guilty of this and it drives me crazy.

Now, to answer your other question about school. You can't keep reality away from your children. Love exists. Love between same-sex people exists. You deal with this subject the same way you deal with any other subject your children come across in the world. You teach them your values about the subject at home and hope they go out into the world remembering their home base. That's all you can do. Because even if your kids aren't getting a formal education about homosexuality you can be sure it's being discussed on the playground.

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Answer 6

I understand that you get slammed for your opinion when it is not the PC thing to say, but everyone is entitled to their opinions. Now, my question is: Why do you care how others live when their lives don't affect you? Is it that you believe they are more likely to commit crimes or hurt other people? For the most part, you won't even know if someone is gay unless they tell you. Most of my gay friends and couples don't go around advertising and you may be surprised how many of your aquaintences are gay. One of my best friends is gay and in a very happy monogamous relationship for 7 years. You would never know they're gay unless they wanted you to.

I don't think it's right for people to bash you for your beliefs, but if you want to avoid that happening, you may want to avoid coming into this area and answering questions on this topic as you know where it will lead. Just answer questions that you are more knowledgeable about. If you bash others for their beliefs, you can only expect to be treated the same.

Answer 7

I’m not being rude, but I think there’s more going on with your questions than you’re saying here. Let me explain a couple of things to you.

Straight people are caught up in their own little world and they’re not interested in gays. They certainly won’t be spending time on the internet looking up the gay section of a message board. You get bisexual people who just can’t come to terms with their sexuality. These are the people you find being abusive on boards like this. They’re basically trying to convince themselves that they’re straight because they hate that other side of their feelings. Just look at the answers you’ve already got on here, for example there’s “ken s” comments. I bet if you click into his profile and read all his past answers/questions you’ll find a lot of gay related stuff. Straight guys just don’t spend their time online chatting about gays. It’s obvious the guy is bisexual, but angry with the world for having these feelings. In fact you can click into any anti-gay message on this site and you’ll find the same thing (a bisexual searching the internet for gay related stuff). They just see gays as camp queens and they know they’re not like that. They don’t think macho 6 foot tall rugby player type guys (like myself) could ever be gay.

I understand that you feel hurt by some of the comments made, but your comments have also hurt others. I’m 100% gay and have never been with a female, but that’s actually not as common as you might think. If you go onto any gay chat site (gaydar or gay.co.uk), you’ll find that most of the “gays” are married family men with kids. All I would say to you is that it sounds like you have issues and doing gay related messages on here isn’t very healthy for you. I say that with a kind heart, not out of rudeness.

Answer 8

It IS okay for you to express your opinion. That is why this website is here amongst getting real advice. There are just many people who will disagree with you and they have that right too. Since you are a strong person that isn't easily swayed by others opinions then what you need to do expect to get unruly, abusive and hateful people that will respond negatively to your questions. There are a lot of those type of people on here. I've learned over the years to just let things roll off my back and sometimes just take what people say with a grain of salt. The later isn't in every case, because I've learned where to draw the line. You'll be okay on here, because there are some nice people.

I do agree with you that homosexuality is wrong and is a sin and I don't believe you are a crappy mother, even though I don't know you. But remember expressing your opinions in this particular part of the board will get you some very strong opinions thrown back at you.

Answer 9

You are perfectly entitled to an opinion, but it does not mean that everyone or anyone has to agree with your opinion. You ask why people are being "abusive". It may well be that you started the argument in the first place - take responsibility for your own actions!

Answer 10

There's no reason why you shouldn't discuss your opinions, although it would be a good idea to check your sources (there's far less said about it in the Bible than most anti-gay people would like to believe, for example).

But the test of whether you're a thinker or a fanatic - in any field - is to ask the question 'what sort of evidence would have to be produced to convince me that I'm wrong?' And if the answer is Nothing, nothing will convince me, then I'm afraid you're going to catch some negative vibes from people who prefer to approach problems in a data-gathering and rational decision-making fashion.

Answer 11

Why do you come expressing your homophobic fears here, Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered section... and what do you actually expect to hear from Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, and Transgendered people about your nonsense questions?

Really, you are entitled to have your opinion, but what kind of kick do you get out of abusing other people? If you show up in a LGBT site and start spouting homophobic stuff -- guess what -- folks are probably going to give you your hate -- right back at you!

The bigger question is, what kind of bubble do you live in? As you might have noticed, just because people feel they are entitled to judge, condemn, reject and disrespect people for being gay, doesn't mean gays are going to roll over and say 'thanks' for pissing on us.