When someone asks why you are getting a divorce, what is the nicest, politest or clever way to answer? I can't believe they even have the nerve to ask in the first place
2007-01-01 09:14:00 · 18 answers · asked by Urbangirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've always been told that the best way to handle such an impolite and imposing question is to smile at the asker and say, "Why do you want to know that?" Maintain eye contact with the asker and continue smiling. Most likely your response will be enough to help the socially awkward asker to realize the inappropriateness of the question and back down. If they persist, politely offer: "Divorce is a very painful and very private matter. I'm sure you respect my position." Then excuse yourself and leave the room or the person.
2007-01-01 09:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by DivaDynamite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not discuss my divorce with family or friends. When you've had enough.......there is no need to aire your dirty laundry for all to repeat the way that they want it told.
Just tell them; and I have........"I do not discuss my personal life" or ......"why would you ask?" then move onto something right away like, did you see such and such movie...or anything else but the "rude" question that they have asked.
Another thing; if your ex wants to spill his guts to everyone or anyone that will listen.....let him. Do not attempt to defend yourself or engage in conversation about your divorce or personal business.
One thing I have told people over and over again; NO one knows about your business unless you open your mouth and tell them. And when you do that it leaves the gate open for hard feelings, people to re-invent your life and it's a mess. I don't get why people get so upset over someone or a number of people talking about their personal life when they, themselves offered up the goods. Get the picture? *S*
People have nerve that is unheard of in order to satisfy a nosey intrusive need. Some people that is. You owe no one anything with regard to your personal life nor do you owe anyone an answer. *W* good luck!
2007-01-01 17:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dealt with this when my ex and I split up. I just would tell them "it didn't work out." and left it at that. The people I wanted to know why we split up already knew. The rest were just nosey people, and that was the answer they got.
The best was an aquiantance of mine who actually said "I hope it didn't end badly." I just said, "well, if it wasn't bad, it wouldn't have ended."
People are going to ask. If you want to blow off some steam, you can also make up some crazy answers for the shock factor. I told one man I couldn't handle her always wanting to bring all the hot women she works with into our bedroom. He looked confused for a minute then I walked away.
2007-01-01 17:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people ask this question for several reasons 1. they are wondering if they see the same things in their relationships and so they are worried but if you give a reasons that's not in theirs then they can relax 2.they do see the same thing in their relationship and if you said you felt that was a good reason to end things then they know they are not alone 3. they are nosy as hell. I am a past divorcee and have realized these things and so if you feel comfortable answering them then feel free and if you don't then just say right now i am really not in the mood to discuss this and why ruin my day with anything unpleasant and usually they will understand feel bad for asking and drop it.
2007-01-01 17:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them its a personal matter and you would rather not discuss it. You can keep repeating that if they persist.
Its nobody's business why you are getting a divorce. There are a lot of nosey people out there though.
2007-01-01 17:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can just say it didn't work out. people should mind their own business but that's just not how it works most of the time. if they persist after that answer then tell them i don't feel comfortable talking about this right now.
2007-01-01 17:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When nosey people ask why you are getting divorce just say, yes or your right or just have fun with them.
2007-01-01 17:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell them because you feel that is the best option for you and that is the desicion you made..
unless they're idiots they should get it and not ask again. this way your acknowleding their question and answering with out giving much info and yet still making it clear you don't want to talk about it with out flat out saying... "i don't want to talk about it now or ever don't ask me again"
2007-01-01 17:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by crystal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them it's personal. You don't owe anyone any explanations. Don't worry about being polite, because they have no consideration for you if they think it's okay to ask you such a personal question.
2007-01-01 17:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can always say to them; ""Thankyou for asking and I understand your concern, but I really do not want to discuss it". It is no one elses' business what took place and the reason is not theirs to know unless you want them to know.
2007-01-01 17:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by nickle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋