im 13 in my boy is 18 soon 2 b 19 jan.15 n i love him 2 death in he got me pregnant what should i do 2 keep him from goin 2 jail plz dont hate i got 2 many haterz already on my jock i dont need o more just plz tell me what 2 do
2007-01-01 08:50:49 · 35 answers · asked by shaymeera 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i live in p.a
2007-01-01 09:35:55 · update #1
The Age of consent in Pennsylvania is effectively 16 years of age, however close in age exemptions do exist.
"A person commits a felony of the first degree when he or she engages in deviate sexual intercourse with a complainant ... who is less than 13 years of age; or who is less than 16 years of age and the person is four or more years older than the complainant and the complainant and person are not married to each other." ( Section 3123 of PA Code)
"Except as provided in section 3121 (relating to rape), a person commits a felony of the second degree when that person engages in sexual intercourse with a complainant under the age of 16 years and that person is four or more years older than the complainant and the complainant and the person are not married to each other." (Section 18-31B-3122.1 of PA Code)
"A person commits a felony of the first degree when he or she engages in sexual intercourse with a complainant ... who is less than 13 years of age." (Section 18-31B-3121 of PA Code).
In other words you are 13, he was 18 at the time of conception. Age difference of 5 years is not good in the eyes of the law. You had best hope that your parents are more interested in having him stay out of jail and work to support the baby than pressing charges.
Final loophole, he marries you.
Good luck. Hope this is just a "joke" for your sake!
2007-01-01 11:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by dedum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This goes to show you that you may not be necessarily able to may the proper judgments because if you had thought ahead as most responsible people are required to do then you would've showed how much you cared about your boyfriend by being concerned about this issue before getting pregnant. You knew you were not being responsible with your actions and now you are pregnant. I truly hope that you use wisdom with your actions more next time. And yes of course whether you want him to or not, the state laws says so then your boyfriend can go to jail. Lord have mercy!
2007-01-01 09:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well really this decision is not up to you. In most states it's up to the court system whether or not to press charges. Do your parents know your pregnant? No matter what they think about him, if they don't know they need to ASAP. It's so important to make a decision on what to do with this baby right away. There are major decisions that you need to make that even the most mature, responsible person have a hard time making. Think about yourself, your life, your baby, your future. I wouldn't suggest you tell your parents who the father is if you think they will freak out and call the police. If you say you don't know they can't call the police on anyone, right? If he signs the birth certificate for the baby then he is signing a warrant for his arrest. I hope he's responsible and willing to help you out. No matter what you decide to do, it will be hard.
2007-01-01 11:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by Angee D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel badly for you. You should've known better than to be with an 18-year-old man. That's just disturbing that a man of 18 would want to be with a 13-year-old girl. A five year difference there, hun. Somebody might go to jail... and how could you have had sex with him?! You are pregnant with his baby. You will not be able to be a teenager. I mean, a real teenager. A teenage mom, yes.
2007-01-01 10:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by mmandypanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, no matter what you say, he's going to jail, probably for a long time. The courts have decided that you are far too young to make a decision to have sex and get pregnant on your own since your brain isn't yet developed enough to make mature decisions about your future. That's why he'll be going to jail. No matter how much you wanted it, it's still considered rape.
2007-01-01 12:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by eri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do..if your parents want to press charges there is absolutely nothing you can do to stop it. You are a minor and you really don't have any say even if you go to court and be on his side the judge will not listen to you. Sorry If for what ever reason you think you really love him and he really loves you you better start hoping your parents see it that way and soon your belly will be poking out eventually. Good Luck. No I'm not hating just keepin it real.
2007-01-01 08:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by I wanna stay on maternity leave! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry but u dont have a say. ur a minor. it is still illegal. even to kiss a guy that age when ur a minor it is illegal. my aunt told me about a case like this once. she is a lawyer. the guy only had to do community service but that was in minnesota so i may be stricter in pa. i would look up the laws. they should be somwhere on the internet. good luck. ur in my prayers. and even though ur under age and i am thirteen and i feel ur pain i m not pregnant but i no thirteen year olds who are and i no how they feel. but neway congrats. it wont be easy but congrats neway.
if u need a name and u rnt gonna do abortion then here are some names
sophia louise
william james
2007-01-01 11:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh you poor kid
do you know what life with a baby is
no more doing what you want being up and never any sleep
and once you get used to a routine the baby is in the next stages. for you and baby sake give the baby up
let someone who is old enough to vote be a mom.
but first you need to tel your parents
good luck cause if you decide ton keeping the baby you are gonna need it. well if he is like 18 almost 19 sorry he is an adult and should know better then to stick it in someone so young and if you where my daughter i would have him in jail
because you are just a baby yourself no disrespect but 13 you should be paying dolls and going out to pizza .
like almost everyone has commented on he is going to jail he should have thought of getting with someone closer to his age
2007-01-01 08:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by ~*big mama *~ 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I know you say you love him but what is he saying about the fact that he may be facing jail? Is he willing to step up and be a father? there is really nothing you can do. my brother is in jail right now because of the same thing the girl even got up on the stand and gave them letters that she had writen that said she was over 18 she lied to him. she asked the judge to let him go but the judge said there was nothing that she could do about it. that it was out of her hands. sorry try checking this out http://www.cga.ct.gov/2003/olrdata/jud/rpt/2003-R-0376.htm
2007-01-02 08:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by giggles3625 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he didn't want to go to jail, he shouldn't have impregnated you. I'm not a "hater," as you put, but he should pay the concequences of sleeping with a minor.
Even if you don't want him to go to jail, Science can find a way to see who got you pregnant if you don't tell anyone, and then the punishment could be worse. Not to mention he's going to be known as a pedophilliac for the rest of his life.
But anyhoo, you're just a kid. Are you going to actually have the baby, when you are still but a babe yourself?
2007-01-01 08:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by heartsofabyss 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋