Im gay, and i have the biggest crush on my best friends and he knows and he likes me as a very close friend, but i cant stop thinking about him what should i do?
2007-01-01 08:50:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well it's cool that your friend knows you are gay.That builds trust in any relationship, friendly or otherwise. He seems to be comfortabe knowing that you are gay and as such it hasn't affected the friendly relationship you two have. That's a good thing.
The ball is in your court now. You don't want to come off as one of those clingly types. You should try looking around and meeting others. Just because your friend is cool with you having a crush on him doesn't mean he won't get annoyed with your attempts at making him want you. That could end the nice relationship you do have with him and I'm guessing you would be distraught over it.
Tone it down on the "crush-o-meter" and just be a friend to him. Also don't miss out on the opportunity to meet and find someone else. Limiting yourself to one person is not such a good thing. Spread the wealth. You might have someone who is jonesin' on you. Take care and live a little.
2007-01-01 09:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by pheirmeizer001 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Crushes can be difficult, especially if it is a friend. Try to remain a good friend to him. If you pressure him to fast, it may not work out. If he feels the same way about you, time will tell. try to be patient, I have been in the same situation, but the other person never know my feelings. If this person does know how you feel, maybe he will come around, but take it slow.
2007-01-01 17:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by mjohnsa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pay close attention to him. Real close straighten his collar,
get his soda hand feed him.
Tell him he has big arms and ask if you can feel his muscle's.
Buy him cologne and tell him if he needs a shave or hair cut.
After a while he will get around to thinking he may need your
help with other things. You will see the twinkle in his eyes when
he has the idea. Act shy as though it is his idea alone and be
impressed if he shows you.
Complement him on his manly beauty.
Enjoy.........
2007-01-01 20:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by Terry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy the friendshoip but unless or until he decides to declare he too is gay keep your options open and date other guys; out there is just the right guy for you and you will find him if you take a chance and go out into the world. The again if you friend is gay you dating others might make him come out and marry you but please don't hold your breath on that one; it usually only works in fairy tales.
2007-01-01 17:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a tough one. If you know him well and he will be ok with it tell him. Try not to lose his friendship over YOUR being Gay. If he is a true friend he will tell you how he feels and then later on in year you may still remain friends.
2007-01-01 16:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by lorry42766 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't gay, all you can do is be the best friend you know how to be. The only way you can be with him is as friends, so do not ruin the friendship.
2007-01-01 18:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish I had the right answer for you. I'm still recovering from my biggest crush.
2007-01-01 16:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by Kedar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to make some new friends. Like they say, there are millions of fish in the sea.
2007-01-01 16:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, is he gay/bi? If yes, than maybe you should tell him how you feel and see where it goes?
If not, than I'm sure you would know the answer?
Unless you want to risk losing your friendship?
2007-01-01 17:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend is straight? then I'm afraid you need to look elsewhere to try and assuage your feelings for this guy.
2007-01-01 18:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋