ok so i have this friend... ill call her Jessica, she used to be my BEST FRIEND (in 7th grade) and everything we had so much in commen. But this year (8th grade) i noticed she has started to have theese mood swings.. its almost like she is bi-polar (literally) She is only happy if a guy likes her and is totally upsessed with her looks. Like she will not let anyone see her w. make up off. and when all of us are at a sleep over she will put more make up on b4 bed so she looks the best. and makes comments like.. dont wear that b.c u will look better than me. or u caint wear that. and stuff she has to be the center of attention. at this point i cant wait for highschool. i want to sart gradually breaking away from her... how sould i go about it?
2007-01-01 08:43:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i want to know how i should break away
2007-01-01 08:47:04 · update #1
put Nair in her shampoo, bam! problem solved.
2007-01-01 08:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by dj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its not the best to stop being her friend.
First of all, you're 13 right? I am too. There's a little thing called PMS that happens to just about every girl our age. Consider that before you start getting angry about what hormones are doing to her.
Second of all, the reason why I say its not the best to stop being her friend is because she seems to be going through a lot of things. Since she was your best friend in the seventh grade, invite her to your house or some other place good and tell her you are worried about her and you aren't sure that you can be friends with the way she is acting now.(In a nice tone, though).
It's not normal for your friend to make a complete 360 in one year. If you think she is seriously bi-polar talk to her parents, or a counselor or something. Or talk to her. Sometimes, it's not good for a friend to just break away from another friend simply because she is acting "weird". There are ALWAYS reasons why.
She probably thinks she is ugly and you look better than her and needs boy's attention before she can feel secure. I had a friend like that. If you want to talk to me about it, you can e-mail me at princesspeace_93@yahoo.com.
2007-01-01 17:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Precious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is sooo jealous of you! just do it cold turkey, tell her if she's not ok with the way u dress or how u are she better start looking for new friends cause u;re better than that and mature enought to deal with her stupids drama queen problems. Is not worth the time and efford to be friends with someone who u know does not care about u and still make whatever to hold u back. So good luck!
2007-01-01 16:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by kLaUDiA G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why that would make you a little crazy. The poor thing feels so inferior to you that she's making herself terribly unhappy. If you really want to break off the friendship with as little upset to her as you can just, slowly start making your phone calls to her less and less, also make them shorter each time. When she wants to get together don't be available as often. Tell her you have plans. In school walk to classes with other girls or make sure it isn't just the two of you. The same goes with lunch. Hope this helps.
2007-01-01 16:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by mjm52 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should purposely start looking better than her. That way she'll be the one to break off from you. She'll be so jealous of you she'll flip out. Don't try and be the center of attention but do things that will annoy her. That way you can dress/wear makeup however you want instead of trying to please her all of the time. High school is worse than middle school. Don't be in such a rush to grow up :)
2007-01-01 16:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is experiencing what most teenagers go through and shes going through both physical and emotion changes, especially with her self-esteem it seems. She wants people to like her and shes going to continue like that. Find new friends. Just gradually stop talking to her and find other people to hang out with. If not, you can just let her know you are not comfortable with the way she is acting and that you feel the need to keep away.
2007-01-01 16:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by Blood&Wine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When one encounters an opposition...it's like agame of Chess.
Put your cards on the table. Play your pieces on move at a time. Wrong move and its' checkmate.
You win by gaining speed on your opponent and that is done by you simply playing the game or choosing to withdrawl.
In poker you call or bluff or fold.
What ever you choose to do, when you decide to do it, do it and leave the rest alone and if you can't then you should not sit at the table and play the game.
2007-01-01 16:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you don't like the way she has been acting lately. If she still doesn't change than stop talking to her. Don't ignore her just stop starting a conversation with her. you only have one year left with her so just stick it out. you don't need a rude "friend" like that
2007-01-01 16:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by hey! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds like she has problems. She can't decide what other people wear, and if she doesn't get her way, she'll be moody. Just tell her that you can't stand her being that way and hang out with other people. See if she chooses between her looks or her friends.
2007-01-01 16:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell "Jessica" that she is kinda getting on ur nerves. but u should be nice about it. then if she is still getting on ur nerves, just tell her that she should stop acting like people won't like her if she is just a big ball of makeup. and that if she still wants to be ur friend, she shouldn't have to wear makeup at sleepovers. and until then u don't want 2 b her friend. hope this works!!!!!
2007-01-01 16:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by Bre T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are seriously thinking of getting out of the friendship, just stop hanging with her and stop going places that she invites you to. I would talk to her first though. Hopefully it doesn't turn into a fight or an arguement if you talk to her.
2007-01-01 16:46:26 · answer #11 · answered by NIcole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋