I asked a close female friend that we need to lose contact for awhile-so that I can get over my feelings for her.She said “If thats how you feel sweetheart,ok and that maybe you do need time out”.She only wants to be friends.The conversation ended with an argument, with her calling me 2 faced and selfish.(asked her if she ever felt anything for me and for her to be truthful).Why would she call me this? We're close friends.
We've not spoken for a whole month.I have tried calling\txting(last 2 days) and have got no response from her.For christmas I sent a card saying how important the friendship is to me and how special she is.In the txt I wrote how stupid I behaved and I regret it,would do anything to make amends. Why hasn't she responded to the missed calls\txts???Also the xmas card?
Could I have offended\hurt her really that much-how could I if she agreed to no contact?
Does this mean the friendship was never genuine?Will we speak again--or is she clearing her head?
2007-01-01 08:30:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't know what to think anymore?
When would she get in touch?
I really want to get in touch.She wanted to remain friends-so I am respecting her wishes,no?I have delt with my feelings-so I'm ready to get back in contact
She said that we're only friends---could she have possibly fancied me and not told me?
2007-01-01 08:30:55 · update #1
it sound like you have hurt her, its very possible that she did have romantic feelings for you.
maybe shes ignoring your txts and calls because she doesnt want to be hurt again. maybe she feels like the relationship wasnt genuine because of what you said! the whole meaning of a conversation can change with the tone you use.
if you really want to reconnect buy a big bunch of flowers (not from a petrol station or corner shop) and call to her door. or even a teddy bear saying missed/missing.
you risk her closing the door on your face but at least you will know where you stand.
good luck and if you can let me know how you get on.
2007-01-01 10:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by lizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she just feels a little overwhelmed by your feelings for her.
Give her space, she will contact you when she is ready. She may not have got the calls or texts? Has she changed phone or gone away somewhere?
Take a step back and try not to be so full on with her. She may be feeling uncomfortable with the way you feel for her.
2007-01-01 08:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by katyllou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean, what you saw and what you thought you had.
Save your breath, your angst and your time.
You did anything 'wrong.' I believe you did whatever she needed to use to call it 'Over With.'
I'm sorry, but some relationships are like that ~ where you experience what you see as a closeness / bond / relationship in a particular light ...only, your the one who's seeing that way. The other person might pay it lip service ~ until the time comes for them to 'change their mind.'
You don't actually provide 'ammunition' for this change, but just the 'reason.'
You might not see it like this, but you are the lucky one, you experience some thing which was to you 'Special.' Take it, own it and use it within yourself, build on it.
Best of luck.
Sash.
2007-01-01 11:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iti sounds very unreasonable her getting angry with your questions. If she were a real friend what was the problem with answering a simple question. I don't think she ever was a friend to you. Why would she feel betrayed? don't bullsh*t yourself. Please do not contact her in the near future, you've done enough. She might get back in a next couple of weeks. If she doesn't and you still feel strongly about if in a few weeks time, send her a simple message, and if you get nowhere, bin it.
2007-01-01 08:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun, shes doing the right thing, if you have romantic feelings for her and she dosnt for you then no contact is the only way for you to move on, if you keep seeing her, even as friends, you will not get over her, I know it hurts, but life does that sometimes.
2007-01-01 09:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by magpyre 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but you need to move on. Sadly, it seems that maybe she didnt values your friendship as much as she said she did. She would have responded back if she deemed you important to her as a person and as a friend. Sometimes its better to let go that to dwell on what was done wrong.
2007-01-01 08:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by Blood&Wine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is all abt this only.... move on... may be after some time she might jus come back.... it works the same way... when u wanted sum time she respected dat.... n now its ur turn to respect the same .... cos she also needs to think n have her space.... giv her some time let her revert u back..... instead of u chasin her.... its sort of a toss.... if she is meant for u, she will come back.... otherwise move on dude....
2007-01-01 14:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by Rachna S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as though she thinks you have betrayed her and your friendship by using the friendship to get something she does not want/
Are you sure you are being totally honest here?
I know it's difficult when you love someone, but don't forget...friendship involves trust and my bet is she thinks you have broken that trust.
2007-01-01 08:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
friendship between a male and female can be done untill one over steps the mark so to speak, give her time to cool down. if you do see her just say hi /how are you, see how she acts to you
good luck
2007-01-01 09:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by angies_angel_eyes2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop trying to make contact with her, she'll call you when she ready, if she doesn't, then you will just have to accept it. there nothin else you can do.
2007-01-01 10:34:11 · answer #10 · answered by taxi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋