I have a b/f that I am in love, he did some time in jail and now he's out.we got together he has been there for me. I was hospitilze in july of 06 he was there for me from the being to the end of my sickness, He was always there to take care of me I mean right there.I have not family here where I live and my parents could not come down due to money issuse. When I met him told him that I was in the process of trying to buy a home. I ask him was he ready for that he said yes that what he want a family. Now I got the house and now I am having a baby I give him everything he ask for no he don't live with me anymore. he want to stay in the hood with his boys as he say. everything he has is in my name, what should I do. I ask him to go home but he keep saying he come when I ask when he just say he's come home when he get ready, he have some thing to take care of 1st. I don't understand
help me is there any good advice out there for me.
2007-01-01 08:18:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He obviously wasn't really ready to leave his old life behind, and from how you tell it, it seems you are letting him walk all over you. The best advice I can suggest is that you tlak to him about how you feel and remind him that you are pregnant and will be having his baby, and that the last thing you need after waiting for him for so long is for him to get caught up in some more trouble because of him wanting to be in his old neighborhood, and for you to be left raising a baby on your own because of his choices. I really hope he grows up for the sake of you and your baby, but if he doesnt try, then you shouldn't and should focus on your baby, and maybe another love interest that wont make you feel like you're forcing him to live with you, and will accept you and your baby. Good luck
2007-01-01 08:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by Summer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too bad for you but you have a boyfriend that has not grown up yet. He is not even close to except responsibility. He needs that to be a husband and father.
What he sees now is you were okay to sleep with but not to tell him what to do. Of course he will take all you give him, in his mind why not.
Do not look at what he did while you were sick. It was nice of him to do that for you but he may not have done it just for you.
Take a look at all you have given him. Has it been quite a bit and is his life better for it? My guess what ever it was is gone.
I hope you were smart enough to not put his name on your house.
This would have been a big mistake. If you are forced to sell it he may have claim to half of the profit you may make.
While your heart tells you one thing you know that at this point in his life he is not good for you. Too prove this ask him to provide half of the support for your child. My guess is he will not and you may never see him again. If so you are better off for it.
2007-01-01 16:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy isn't ready for a grown up relationship and definately hates the idea of comittment.
You basically have two choices here you either put up with things as they are now & let him continue being "cool" and "the man" like he thinks he is or you kick his *** out of there, stop letting him freeload & give him a choice, maturity and a family or the boys.
2007-01-01 16:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by madamspud 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sister, kick him to the curb! Just because he was there for you at one point doesn't mean he is entitled to just treat you however. Quit spending your time and money on someone who is letting you down and not giving back to you. You sound like a really good-hearted person who deserves a man that will appreciate you! Find someone who will really be there for you, there's a lot of men out there looking for a good woman!
2007-01-01 16:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to get your name off anything he has and get rid of him it doesn't sound like he is as ready as he thought he was. he may grow up eventually but do you want to put your life and the babies life on hold till he decides that he is ready??? you should get rid of him he will probably be back in jail in a short time anyway
2007-01-01 16:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him alone it sounds like he is not ready to grow up and he will probably be in jail within the next 6 months again_
2007-01-01 16:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the big baby and make it on your own.
You can do it.
He will not do anything but hold you down and mess up everything you have worked so hard for.
2007-01-01 16:33:33 · answer #7 · answered by mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
things to take care of?
right and he spent time in prison makes you wonder but ya my mom says that if he dont listen to you then you should just cut him off cold turkey
2007-01-01 16:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by chicmagnet777@yahoo.com 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would start canceling everything that has your name on it. It does seem that he has used you. Unfortunately you should end it with him and try to move on.
2007-01-01 16:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
stop dealing with the hoodrats! get a real man! read fabulousity by kimora simmons
2007-01-01 16:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by lanafolana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋