I've liked him for about 3 years (I know!) and I've always felt that there was "something" there, but I'm his mate's little sister and I realised that makes it difficult for him to "try it on". I don't know, but I guess I thought that one day everything would fall into place. Anyway, NOW he has a girlfriend and all my hopes are dashed. HELP!!! Firstly do I move on, or hope that they'll split up (I sound mean, I'm not) and/or HOW do I get over him?
2007-01-01 07:51:29 · 18 answers · asked by vixta1982 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am not THAT young!! I'm in my early 20's. Also, I don't hang out with my brother or his friend that often (which is a part of the problem). And he's hasn't been seeing this girl for very long, just before xmas I heard. Thank you all for such kind responses!
2007-01-01 10:04:16 · update #1
Well, it looks like you're in for the long haul. Maybe his new girlfriend will be around for six weeks, maybe six months, maybe six years. Why not work on the things that would make you a good catch in his eyes next time he's free and looking around - things that would make him see you differently, less like a little kid sister?
You don't say what age you are, but consider getting a boyfriend (doesn't have to be serious/long-term), a cool hobby, a change of image, a decent job, passing exams/your driving test, going travelling for the Summer, leaving home to go to University...? All these things will make you seem like less of a little girl and more of the interesting young lady that you are, as well as giving you something to focus on.
The advantage of everything on that list is that even if it never works out between you and him, not one of them will have done you a shred of harm. The worst thing you can do is sit around moping over him, or making him feel uncomfortable by acting weird when you see him. Just keep on being the person you always were, so you don't drive him away through sheer awkwardness.
Good luck, and I'm sorry you feel bad. It's better this way than if you went out with him for two weeks and then split up in some horrible way that meant you could never be friends again.
2007-01-01 08:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Snakey B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has a girlfriend, you should move on then if it doesn't work out with them, then tell him how you feel if he's within appropriate age range. Don't worry about your brother, just if the guy and his girlfriend break up, don't let him go again. Don't wait around for him though. That may be unhealthy.
Time is the best way to get over someone. Don't purposely listen to music that reminds you of him and don't purposely seek out his attention. Just be yourself and eventually it will fade.
2007-01-01 08:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, well if he already has a girl i'm sorry to say this but if they really like each other you need to forget about him. One way to get over him is try to not think about him. Just keep on a search for someone else. Don't try anything mischievous to get them to break up or that could result in him getting furious with you. Good luck!
2007-01-01 07:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by ▐▀▀☼▀▀▌ ☼Sharon☼ ▐▄▄☼▄▄▌ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest with you if he has any feelings towards you he will try to take the first step but l think you wre in front of him for 3 years so l think may be you dont attract him or maybe he feels that you are his sister not his friend's sister
don't break your heart in such dream " it happened to me " whenever you see his girlfriend you will burn your heart.
l'm sorry to say that but that's the truth.
2007-01-01 08:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by luckyducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes dear, you really odd to just forget about him.
You seem young, you have plenty of years to find yourself a guy who makes you feel all googly in side ^-^ He-he
As for getting over him...
Go out with your girlfriends, rent a movie, buy a ton of junk food & just talk about pointless stuff & be an idiot! Just have fun!
Give it time & you'll get over him...
Oh & when you see him just act like you don't even care that he has gf. If you still have a mad crush on him then just try to avoid the dude till you know in your heart that you are completely over him....
Good luck sweet heart
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2007-01-01 07:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i've been in this situation before. i know you don't want to hear it, but you need to move on. it's unhealthy. i spent the last two years being in love with this guy. he still has his girlfriend (she cheats on him all the time too) and i've moved on. i started hanging out with other people and when he was around i would leave the room.
2007-01-01 07:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard one. maybe you could just ask him if you could talk to him for a little. tell him everything like how long you liked him and why. he may just dump the other girl for you(im not trying to be mean) you never know, you might care for him and like him more then the other girl.
2007-01-01 07:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by v_nguyen51395 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should stay close to him and always be there for him so that he knows he has someone to go to if he has a problem, just be his friend. And if they split up you will probably be his number 1girl. Hope it works.
2007-01-01 08:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Silvia D 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
very quickly......i would hate for my sister to go out with my friend.
Thats violation in my eyes man.
I think u should just forget about him.....if ur feelings were true, you would've moved 2 him years ago!
Find someone else!
2007-01-01 07:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by mk_south_london 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say, but get over it. it wouldnt work even if he did break up with his girlfriend because you will always be "his mates little sister", thats only going to mess up their friendship in one way or another! xx
2007-01-01 07:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by hana woo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋