Why do we cry when we fall out of love with someone?

Question

I am a 24 yr old woman and I have been with my partner for 4 and a 1/2 yrs and we have a little boy together but today I realised I no longer love him or feel anything for him other than friendship but the bizarre thing is, as I think of this all I can do is cry. WHY??!!

Answer 1

Because it hurts, and realization of something ending is painful. You are mourning something. Let yourself cry, when the tears end you will be ready to do the hard work of moving on. Good luck!

Answer 2

Because it's very upsetting when you realise that the love has gone out of your relationship with someone,especially when you are such good friends as you obviously are.
You also have a child together, it's got to be hard.But you are obviously looking sub-consciously into the situation without realising it and wondering where these feelings of lost love are going to guide you to.
Have you disgusted how you feel with your partner, perhaps he feels the same.
You owe it to him as a friend really, because if you don't feel love for him anymore he must have felt the loss, it's a hard thing to conceil.
I know it's hard to think about disgussing the situation, but because you have a child I think you should both put your cards on the table, most of us (hopefully ) live long lives it will be practically impossible for you to continue in this relationship for a lifetime feeling the way you do now.
Also you are only human, and you are now open heartwise with regarding to meeting someone else.Talk with your partner now, you may be able to come to an amicable arrangement before you find yourself in an affair to get yourself out of this one.
Good luck.My advice to everyone is, always put yourself in the other persons position and ask yourself "would I like that done to me"if the answer is no, then you have answered your own question,haven't you?

Answer 3

Anytime there is the loss of a relationship, even if the breakup is wanted, it is natural to grieve. There are the loss of the dreams you had for the future of your relationship, the sadness for your little boy not having two parents who are together, and fear of what the future may bring.
I experienced all of that when I divorced my abusive, alcoholic husband, even though it defied logic. I knew it was the healthiest thing to do for both my son and me, but that didn't allay the grief much, since everything I've told you happened to me.
It's fortunate that you still consider his father to be your friend; it will be better in the long run for all three of you.
So, cry your eyes out; it will help you to heal.

Answer 4

Crying when love ends or we realize its gone is because our heart is mouring for that love. It is a natural process we must go through. Once we finish crying we realize we are ready to move on with our life. In this case, there is a child involve and it may be cause you wanted your child to grow up with both parents who were together and in love. We all grow up seeing our grandparents and parents who lived and loved each other until one of them passed on. We as woman always dream of finding that special someone who will love us until the end of time. Sad to say all good things come to and end. I found out first hand that happens. We have to look at love in another way. We have to enjoy the love we have for as long as it last whether it be a month, a year, or a lifetime. Sharing the love one feels is what makes life beautiful. Build a stronger relationship with you spouse as a friend. You to have a child who will need both of you. He is a living reminder of a special love you two shared. Good luck.

Answer 5

I'm really sorry, must be a tragedy. Love hurts. When someone breaks up with someone the pain wont let go of you. MIght take weeks, months, years etc. The reason you cry is because you loved him. I'm 13 and have had a few break ups. It's totally normal why you cry. I hope everything goes well for you.

Answer 6

Being in a negative situation creates negative thoughts which outburts crying. Crying can reduce stress and acts as a natural painkiller which creates a calming effect. No one has a real scientific explanation, its just a natural effect to the body and brain.

Some experts believe that crying with someone else fulfils a need for shared experience, making us feel better and closer.

Answer 7

Are you crying because you're not in love with him anymore, or because he's not in love with you?

Don't worry about the crying, it's ok to let it out.

Don't stress too much about the change in the relationship - you can't be in love with each other forever. You know, relationships have a tendancy to turn a little flat but that doesnt mean that you have to break up. This may only be a one of those bumpy patchs that all long relationships go through.

Keep your chin up sweetie.

Answer 8

Because it hurts, knowing a chapter of our lives is over. You have a son together, so you're feeling a lot of emotions right now. You're probably blaming yourself, but these things happen. You're about to begin a new life, so maybe you're a bit scared about the future. Everything will work out, just takes time. Good luck

Answer 9

Crying can be therapeutic. So many things comes along with change. There may be a change in your everyday routine or a even a change in lifestyle especially when there is someone else involved. It's nice that you're being honest with your feelings and hopefully remaining friends with your partner will be helpful for you and your child.

Answer 10

You need to find out that why there is no longer love or feel. Many ppl said when you get along with someone for a long period, you will get bored. In general, whatever u do, you will get bored. Please go find for help, like counseling to help you out. Does he still love you? Take your time and think about what did you guys went through in 4 and 1/2 years and deeply reevaluate this relationship whether or not it's worth for you to stay. You need to discuss this with your boyfriend. Good Luck!