I'm 24 years old, been with my bf 18 months now and totally in love, we're getting married next year. I have this problem though, when it comes to sex - I just don't like the feeling of anything inside me. I don't use tampons because of it, and I don't like it when he fingers me, or when we try to have sex - I just get this burning sensation and it doesn't feel good at all. It's not that it won't go in - it goes in fine, and I'm always well lubricated, I just don't like the sensation at all, it makes me feel quite sick and gives me these dull abdominal pains, like period pains. What should I do???!!! I've tried inserting things by myself as well, to try to get used to it, but I just get this burning, and then if I go deeper I get this uncomfortable pressure on my back passage, like I have to go to the toilet........how can I learn to enjoy it??
2007-01-01 07:30:43 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Thanks for the advice so far - it's not an STD, because I've only ever been with my bf, and he had an STD check before we started having unprotected sex. I've had PAP smears a couple of times, and I did tell them that it was really uncomfortable having the speculum inserted, but they said that was normal........
2007-01-01 07:38:32 · update #1
Have you seen a gynecologist to make sure everything is OK. You could a physical ailment that make sex uncomfortable for you and prevents you from enjoying it. If that isn't the problem you may need to see a psychologist you may have an emotional issue that needs to be dealt with in order for you to enjoy yourself physically. There's no shame in seeking help, please talk to your physicians before you get married and take care of this problem so that it doesn't hinder your marriage in the future. Happy New Year.
2007-01-01 07:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by 2D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay there are two answers to this problem that I now of at least. There is a chance its neither, but there is a chance it is. The first is there is a change your hymen, even though you arent a virgin is stronger than normal and has not completely detached, this happened to my best friend and she had to have it cut. The second condition is known as interstitial cystitius it causes uncomfortable sex, and you can also often feel like you have a bladder infection. I put a link for IC in the sources section, so if you want to check it out you can. I also put a few more links about pain during sex, so you can see if your symptoms match any of the conditions listed. Most importantly though listen to the others and go see a gynecologist, sex isnt supposed to hurt.
2007-01-02 08:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consult a gyno. it is possible that you have an abnormal tilt in your vagina that causes pain with objects to be inserted. im not sure if there is really anything that can be done to correct this but a doctor would know better than i would. also this is something you are gonna want to know before you get married, you wanna know all of the facts so that later on down the road it never becomes an issue.. and it will if you cant figure out what the problem id. good luck
2007-01-01 07:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lillian S. Phx Arizona 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U just need to probably relax, u are all tensed up.
The pap smear probably did this to u. U need to avoild them unless life threatening and it is required.
U were probably a virgin with this guy, so u will come around to a natural reflex before long.
As far as the finger, i dont think many women like that.
Try to stay away from the finger crap.
Go slowly and build up, take some ginseng .
U may need a shot of wine or liquor to get u relaxed some.
2007-01-01 11:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you always had a burning sensation or is is just lately?Do you use condoms?sometimes some people can be alergic to the latex in the condoms. Or it could be physical you could have a urethra infection.Or maybe it could be phycological maybe you get yourself all psyched up before hand so that you are tense and expecting it to burn ?
2007-01-01 07:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your doctor. Burning is always a bad sign. I myself have a tilted uterus. When my daughter was first born, sex was very uncomfortable. Not to sound funny, but I prefer a smaller penis to a larger one. Go see your doctor You are going to be married& sex is a big part of it.
Sex should be pleasurable.
2007-01-01 07:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by shania3949 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a frank conversation with your boyfriend and explain all this to him. Your getting married and don't like sex. If he truly loves you he will understand. Don't spend the rest of your life with your man "faking it". There seems to be emotional problems here. Go to a professional, you can,t get the advice you need on here. Regards...
2007-01-01 08:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by naplusultra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, see a gynecologist to see if there could be a physical problem you are unaware of. Be sure to tell her that sex in any form is not enjoyable to you. Good luck with this.
2007-01-01 07:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you been to a gyn? There may be something physical that is causing the discomfort. She would be able to give the best advise on how to make it more pleasureable.
2007-01-01 07:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by knihelpu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have a chat with an understanding doctor so they can make sure everything is ok. They might be able to advise you better. Good luck with it.
2007-01-01 07:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by JoJi 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋