Understanding Men?

Question

My boyfriend does not show emotions or affection. You have to watch everything he does to figure out how he really feels. He tells me that he will never get married but I am finding out that he is telling everyone that he plans on getting married in a year. What if he has turned me off so bad that I wouldn't want to be with him like that. Why can't he just tell me how he feels?

Answer 1

The age old "male mystery". Men my dear are made this way. Hard wired to keep their emotions hidden, feelings stuffed deep inside.

Some are better than others and if it is important to you that you have one of those rare ones that do express themselves I suggest you keep looking as they rarely change.

The good news is that they do often express themselves in their actions as you have already discovered. I do have to wonder, however, if his future marriage plans include you. Rather presumptuous of him to make them to others and not let you in on them.

Direct confrontation might reveal some truth. But if I were you I would change hunting grounds. Sounds like you are already "turned off" and in that case why are you worried at all? Move on, darling, and do it with speed. Some very verbal man awaits a lady just like yourself, I'm quite sure.

Answer 2

My ex-spouse was like that and even after I told him last night that I am getting married this year to my bestfriend, he still continues to confuse the hell out of me.

Part of the problem in the relationship was that he could not open up and talk to me; yet, he could talk to his best friend (female). It is not that he does not love you but it may be that he really wants to make sure. He might be trying to save his feeling from being hurt. He may be testing you. Men say women can not be understood but let's be truthful most men a real mysteries. If you love him enough then learn change yourself to accept him the way he is if not end the relationship and find someone who can express themselves.

I believe in astrology. Do some research on his sign both with the zodiac and the chinese astrology. They are very useful. It is more like a little map. Try this website.... www.doublesign.com

I have to say the research I have done on friends and loved ones has come to be the way they are.

Good luck.

Answer 3

forget trying to figure your man out.men deal with emotions differently than women.i find it best to listen when my man wants to talk.give him his space.when he's ready to talk he will.men want to be left alone when they have alot of things going on.don't nag him ,that won't help.if you listen and be supportive to his needs he'll realize your more than a lover,,,your a friend.communication is important in a relationship.if u don't have that it won't ever work.
men deal with different things on a daily basic,and they'll keep it built up inside and try to resolve it on there own.when they feel comfortable enough they'll open up.if they figure it out,later they'll tell you why they were so distant.just be patience.remember you will never figure men out and they will never figure us women out.

Answer 4

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Good luck...!

Answer 5

hes a man they don't ever get it put what you wrote next to the tv remote and he will read and comprehended how you feel and make the decision whether to change or move on but you need to be ready for his reaction.......

Answer 6

Sad things about some men,they don't talk about their feelings,you have to constantly ask and if your lucky they will answer.