My ex and I have joint custody. We have been seperated for 7 years. I have remarried and live in another state. Now he won't let me talk to my son on the phone or see him when I go there in summer and holidays. He says he doesn't like my husband and will not allow our son around him. My husband has tried to talk to him even offered to take him out to lunch so they could meet, he has refused to talk to him or meet him. He was very controlling in the marraige and did not accept my first son. Between us this is the only thing he has left to control me. The boys haven't been together in 2 years. What can I do with a controll freak father and have a chance to spend time with my son?
2007-01-01 07:23:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Doesn't JOINT custody mean both? Enforce it. Not just on holidays. I hate that you moved, I could not and would follow my kids around to be there or near them regardless. Go there on weekends whaterver it takes. The only way to stop it is to ENFORCE what is in order. Stand up and don't let your husband be involved at all. It will hurt your son more. It enforces whatever BS your X has told him about him "coming to get him." Go on your own. Be there with & for him and start to schedule summers, winter and other extended school breaks having him com to be with you. If your husband does not like it tell him you will enforce it if you have to and if he wants to go back to court ok. Stand up girl. Let your X be gone from your mind. It will help him too (I'd hope).
2007-01-01 07:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by bSquirrel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may not choose to alter his schedule for your convenience. Perhaps he doesn't choose to make things easier for you. You didn't mention that he was failing to pay you child support so I'll assume that he pays you a fair amount to deal with the inconvenience of full custody?? His definition of an emergency or problem at work may not be the same as yours? He may view your emergencies as an attempt to introduce chaos into his structured lifestyle. I doubt that he would choose to leave his children without a place to sleep in the event of a real crisis. Your ex might tell you that his marriage is the most important thing to him because he learned the price of a failed marriage from his experience with you. You should be happy that you were able to play such a role in teaching him that valuable lesson. I'd be willing to bet that you aren't completely aware of your ex husbands financial situation. Your points about jewelry and vacations come off sounding more like envy than logic. You have made a couple of conflicting statements about your ex husband. "my ex takes vacations with his wife and most of the time they don't take the kids" But then you say......"The kids don't really like his wife.........if my ex plans something and (the) kids tell him that they don't want to include his wife he cancels his plans and refuses to go anywhere without his wife." Could it be that you'd like to drive a wedge between your ex and his wife?? Could it be that you are angry that he has learned how to set limits and be a better husband? Could it be that you are angry that he treats her better than he treated you? And could it be that you're hiding behind children while making these kinds of attacks on his character? I don't think many of us are wondering why he isn't with you any more.
2016-03-29 03:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the terms of visitation? If you have visitation rights then you can go to court in state where you got your divorce and talk to the judge or the clerk of court. I would talk to a lawyer in the state your husband resides.
2007-01-01 07:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have joint custody that he's not abiding by that. Take him back to court and let him know you're not playing this game with him and he doesn't have as much control as he thinks he does.
2007-01-01 07:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex is jealous of you and your new hubby, as he sees u are happy and he probably isn't. if u have joint custody, than he has no right to do this. go get your boy and ask for full custody of him. he can't go against the court order. but u will continue to have problems with him, over your now hubby, he is jealous, and has not gotten over u yet.
2007-01-01 07:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have a court order to see your son take him back to court for contempt of court. and you will be able to see your son good luck and god bless
2007-01-01 07:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by teadropsue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being a VICTIM stand up for your rights, it's your kid too. See a lawyer you have rights.
2007-01-01 07:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to court and get visitation...he can not refuse you after you have a court order...if he does he can go to jail_
2007-01-01 07:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋