Well i've been with my b/f for 3yrs n 1/2, n well its a long distance relationship, im 19yrs old, hes 22yrs old. We really dont trust eachother but we try 2 work things out, he told me a few days ago that he wants to go out and party, but like theirs really no trust, do you guys think I should let him?? He never told me that before he was always dedicated to me only!! Ladies do you let your b/f go out 2 parties (not with you???) (P.S. I kno the parties he would go 2 there would be "easy girls"there....)
2007-01-01 07:21:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
let him go if he really love you he want do anything but remember where's there no trust theres no relationship. IF this is a long distance relationship you have to trust him.I am in an long distance relationship too. I live here in Houston and he live in Huntsville, AL. and it hard I know it is, but you have to trust him. may be if you stop focusing on who's going to be at the party.focus on him that he's getting out to enjoy his self and find yourself something to do to take your mind off it . do not stress over stuff you can't control.take from me I am in a long distance relationship myself its very hard but you can make it work if you have the trust in each other , so try to work on the trust factor and thing will work out .
2007-01-01 07:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a male. I am also in a similar situation as you. Do you realze how honest with you he is being by telling you? What do you mean should I let him? Thats funny. Do you want to drive him away from you? Then forbid him to go. I suggest that you tell him to do what he wants to do and thank him for telling you and you appreciate that respect. (you should)... Now I also understand how that feels from your end and it is not an easy thing to do. If your worried about easy girls then you have a lot to worry about. They are there. They always will be. If trust is an issue between you two and you are not near each other geographically how is that going to get better? Do you want it to get better? Do you see a way for it to get better living apart? What are the solutions? counseling. sacrifices, love. It hurts. There is no simple answer. I cannot even answer this question in detail becuase I have thought of every angle and situation and have found a solution that I am not going to share here. It's hard babe and you do not want to hear the advice I would give you.
2007-01-01 15:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by perrin501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really not a matter of "should you let him". If that's what he wants to do, then he's going to do it. The fact that you live far away doesn't help matters any since you can't go party with him.
My advice would be to let him go, find a guy you trust more and that lives closer to where you live. Long distance relationships are hard anyway, adding the trust factor in, makes your relationship almost impossible. I can't believe you've made it this long if you don't trust each other. In my opinion, trust is the most important factor in a relationship.
My husband has gone out without me to be with his friends, and he did before we married, but I trusted him with all my heart. That's the key.
2007-01-01 15:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by time_wounds_all_heelz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do let my sweetie go to parties without me even though most of the parties he goes to has easy girls. I trust him and I know he wouldn't do anything stupid to hurt me.
If you don't trust him and are afraid he'll hook up with the first easy girl that comes around, I say LET HIM GO. He will either prove to you that he IS trustworthy or is NOT trustworthy. If he can enjoy a great night partying without sleeping with the first girl that comes his way, cut him some slack. If he proves to you that he can't control himself then its time for you to let go. 3 1/2 years is a long time to be together with no trust so maybe it would be good to test the waters a little and know for sure =) GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-01-01 15:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lonely Love 06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say but the way your relationship sounds, you should break up with him. You guys obviously do not have any trust, and this is one of the most important things in a long distance relationship. If you do not want to break up with him, you will be in a no-win situation. If you let him party, he might be taken by the "easy girls"; however, if you tell him no, he will probably get mad at you.
2007-01-01 15:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by neomanxllp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be so claustrophobic with him; he is his own person, and he should be allowed to do what he wants without feeling like he is being tied down.
You can't build your relationship and help it move on further if you watch each other like hawks all the time. If you can't trust him, there is no relationship, especially if he dosn't trust you either. I mean, there is nothing really there at all.
I think you should have a little look at this from outside the situation, and just see how badly it is set up. Trust is one of the most important influences on a good relationship.
2007-01-01 15:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*ALERT* If you don't trust him, don't be with him. If you need to ask the question, "Should I let him go," there is nothing left to this relationship. You are 19 years old and he's 22. He's old to drink legally and you're not. He wants to go out and have fun because he can. If you're worried about easy girls being there and you think that your boyfriend will go for them, why do you still want to be with him? Don't be with anyone you don't trust. It's too stressful.
Do you honestly think that he would tell the easy girls that he has a girlfriend and if he did, would they really care?
2007-01-01 15:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there before. WHat exactly are either of you getting out of this "relationship?" At your age both of you need to be out meeting people, dating, and not be tied down. If there's no trust then the relationship is already doomed. A guy saying he wants more freedom or wants to party is saying he wants to get some new @$$. Save yourself some dignity and the chance of catching something from him and tell him to go have his fun. And you go have your fun! Good luck and I hope this helps.
2007-01-01 15:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by baldisbeautiful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its long distance so you really can't tell him no..and if you dont trust eachother anyways, what are you doing? your just wasting time worrying...maybe you should let him go and you find a party yourself to go to..maybe you will realize that there are other guys in the world that you can trust
2007-01-01 15:25:15 · answer #9 · answered by kristina43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's worth the hassle to have a long distance relationship with a man you don't trust. Dump him and go out and have fun, another man will come along eventually and maybe you'll find one who lives in the same town and who's trustworthy.
2007-01-01 15:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋