MY mother-in -law said,"Don't you feel less feminine now?" I hadn't thought about it until then, but now I keep thinking about what she said to me. Does anyone who has had this op feel less feminine.It's got me quite low.
2007-01-01 07:20:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
That was pretty cruel Crystal m. You don't know my circumstances.
2007-01-01 07:27:50 · update #1
Thanks everyone. You are very uplifting.
2007-01-01 08:13:05 · update #2
You're still just as feminine as you were before your surgery. I had the surgery a year and a half a go and in fact, I feel more feminine. I feel like a woman with benefits. I have no cycle to deal with so I can be a lady all the time. Beside sometimes there are mothers-in-law that have a way of belittling the daughters-in-law just to have an upper hand. Don't allow that to happen. I'm sure your husband finds you as womanly as you were before maybe even more so. Enjoy yourself and your new body. If someone gives you a negative statement you can choose to turn it into a positive statement about yourself. It's all about choices. Choose well for yourself. Life is too short to let others put you down and make you feel badly about yourself. May 2007 be the beginning of the happiest of new years for you. God bless.
2007-01-01 07:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by 2D 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are talking about, that you stop to have children perpernantly , then no you are no less then a woman at all, some women are born like that, and one thing remember after the age of 45 periods stop then do those women say , oh where less feminine
dont go aorund telling people this is your business you are made as a woman , you just cant have children doesnt make you not a woman, you have women parts your a whole woman, what ever your reason was , I dont know, just be happy I know children isnt an easy thing, and really I dont want any myself either, but I'll always be a woman no matter what , take care
2007-01-01 07:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by well d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I had a complete hysterectomy at 29. It does take a physical and emotional strain on you. All your hormones have been cut off, and it is a horrible shock on the body. In time you won't feel that way. Once your doctor puts you on the medication (hormones) and they take affect it will get better.
Surgery it self can leave you feeling out of commission alone, but that kind of surgery really does.
Hang in there. You still are a woman. You just don't have the parts. I guarantee you, you are just as much feminine as you were before. Hugs to you
2007-01-01 07:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by kallmetigger 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Puh-leeze...that's like saying you are less of a woman if you have a breast removed...you are who you are and removing an organ or body part doesn't change that. Your mother in law is either not very wise or very tactless and a fool.
Why would not having to worry about periods or having children cause you to be less feminine? Many women desire these things all their lives and take various medications and drugs to ensure those things don't happen.
What does having or not having a uterus have to do with being feminine? Your femininity didn't go away...just your ability to bear children and hopefully whatever medical issue that caused the surgery to be necessary.
2007-01-01 07:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I had an hysterectomy when I was only 29 which was very young and I went through a really bad time and yes you do feel you have lost part of you identity, It's easy for people to say your still the same person but they have no idea how you are feeling inside. I am now 49 and sometimes still have these feelings of loss.
2007-01-01 21:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by Margaret 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweetie, I have had this operation 7 weeks ago and I do not feel less feminine. I have been feeling a bit low but its normal as we cannot do lots of things after the op. Don't let your mother in law put you down. Good Luck and god Bless!
2007-01-01 07:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by superstar68 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oddly enough I've heard that a lot. I mean you don't really realize how much femininity comprises your identity. I guess the best way to deal with it is to realize it is that femininity isn't necessarily what organs you inside but what's in your heart and mind. As well, you still have your clit and vagina and labia and I think that can help you retain your feminine identity. Have you ever read The Vagina Monologues? I think it helps affirm the female identity within us. Hope this helps dear.
2007-01-01 07:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel the same as you until my friend said" think of it this way , they've taken away the cradle & left the playpen" I know some women have to have the op done for serious reasons and I sympathise with them , but I don't feel any less feminine .
2007-01-01 08:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife had one when she was only 25 years old. She has been asked this same question many times. Her response is NO! She no longer has her monthly period, the sex has been wild (which has been good for me!) because there is no risk of pregnancy! She does take estrogen to prevent hot flashes and such. She is now 38 and looking back she says it was good thing. No risk of uterine cancer, or in her case ovarian cancer too. She said she feels "fresher" too, whatever the hell that means. So don't get down and embrace it, there are alot of upsides to it as well.
2007-01-01 07:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by crazymofo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No! You are still a woman, and just because you had one of the most common surgeries for us does not mean that you aren't as feminine. That was just cruel of her to say, feel good about yourself and that you have your health.
2007-01-01 07:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by ~Les~ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋