My mom was supposed to be working the night shift and my dad was in london on buisness. I had my b/f over and we were watching tv and just hanging out.(nothing past 2nd base) We fell asleep on my bed with me in his arms. My mom came home, but didn't yell or anything. Now she won't talk to me and doesn't believe me that nothing happened. Why doesn't she trust me??
I am 16. She says that no boy can just be content with that if he hasn't already had sex with the girl. How can I get her to believe me??
I have never lied to her before. Is part of it because my brother began having sex at 16??
2007-01-01 07:19:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
To a parent is going to second base while you're not home, bad??
2007-01-01 07:21:17 · update #1
Not sure, but maybe your mom is just scared because she realizes that you are growing up and she doesn't want to lose her little girl. And maybe because your brother began having sex at 16 makes her wonder if you and your boyfriend are, especially since you're 16 now. If your mom knows that you have never lied to her, then she probably knows that you didn't have sex with him. You should probably try talking to her about it. It will all eventually work out and everything will go back to normal. You just have to wait because your mom is probably having a hard time coming to terms with you growing up and becoming a young woman that is able to make her own choices and deal with the consequences. Good luck though.
2007-01-01 07:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Quentin's Mommy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a parent, having a boy friend over when no adult is there is REALLY BAD. No one of the opposite sex in the bedroom. That was always our rule.
I think you acted with very poor judgment by having your bf over. It may have "only" been 2nd base but that leads to something much more. You lost trust when she found out what you had done. Building back that trust will take time.
2007-01-01 07:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by Dizney 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To even try to understand what a parent sees you must be able to put yourself in their shoes; what would it look like if you walked in and saw what she saw.......
Perhaps she felt since your dad was away and she was supposed to be working you were taking advantage of the situation.....
Sit down with your mother and have a good long conversation. She, or your dad, will never trust you if you give them reasons NOT to trust you. They may even need to have a conversation with your boy friend - in order to know exactly what his intentions are or are not. Learn from your mistakes and vow to regain your parent's trust again.
2007-01-01 08:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are supposed to worry about you. They will assume the worst of situations. Just sit down and tell her the what you told us. That could be the reason, but when a parent walks in on you like that, it'll seem like the worst case scenario.
2007-01-01 07:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by kiki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well 1st is having sex legal at 16 where u live? 2ndly just talk 2 your mother and try to explain to her. don't care if she does object. tell what u have 2 say and then listen 2 her
2007-01-01 07:36:29 · answer #5 · answered by tribalism 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the degree to which your mother thiinks its bad depends on her own belief system and what kind of person she is.
My mother didn't trust me once, I waged war on her and made her feel horrid but in the end she trusted me. I don't recommend to do this lightly, but what I did was...
I asked her if she thought she was a good person. (yes) If she thought she was a good parent to me growing up (yes). Would she feel proud of me and herself accomplished for raising me well when I achieved great things (yes.) Then why does she think she raised a sneaky, lying, untrustworthy person who would lie to her own mother?
If you go on the attacking line as I've just laid out I'd throw in that she might also trust your judgement in boys you date and up until that point she trusted your boyfriend enough to be in her house... what changed.
I don't recommend using this tactic. I recommend sitting down and talking to her adult to adult and directly ask her why she doesn't believe you. Also ask her why she's prejudice against your boyfriend and ask if she thinks you have stand up for yourself and have your own mind to say no if he wants to have sex and you don't.
2007-01-01 07:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a parent, I don't actually know what "going to second base" is (I'm British).
Your mum, to be honest, is probably basing her assumptions on what happened when she was your age. We used to be young as well, you know.
All I can say is, you know the truth.
2007-01-01 07:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is 2nd base anyway?
i know home is when you have full on sex but I dont know the others
2007-01-02 03:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt trust u because ur 16. i had the same problem, read my last question and see where it got me.
2007-01-01 08:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her u need to talk to her and ask her what she thinks happened that night? k then u tell her what really went down. i wish u the best
~alyssa~
2007-01-01 07:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by lovealyssasteen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋