I am a housewife and I am married to a boring, chauvenistic man who thinks it's ok for him to have an affair. He's actually reasoned with me that it is only fair that he be allowed to have extra marital affairs. Anyways, I am a very attractive 24-yr-old and i could get almost any guy i want.....and i might meet the guy i'm really supposed to be with. I only married my husband 2 1/2 years ago because we got pregnant.
2007-01-01 07:14:04 · 17 answers · asked by Kalinka 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't have an affair - but use HIS affair as support for divorcing him. Document everything. You can do (and certainly deserve) a WHOLE lot better. He does sound narcissistic and self-centered - it will be better for you and your child to do the right thing and be away from him. There are good people out there who value a committment - and I am sure the right one is waiting to be found by you! Good luck!
2007-01-01 08:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by curious! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a mess, so hes' being selfish and not caring about you or your child, so you think that's what you should be doing as well? What about your kid? If your child is young, now might be the best time to just get out of your marriage. That way, the kid will never remember having both a mommy and daddy at home, so he/she won't know the pain of going through a divorce and actually understanding some of it. What happens if you have an affair with someone who's just as selfish as your husband, and you get pregnant with that guys' kids as well? Keep your legs shut and use your brain to pick a good man, it's not all about ME ME ME ME ME.
2007-01-01 15:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I happen to be a firm believer that there's a certain unavoidable monotony associated with monogamy. I also believe there's an incredible difference between loving someone and having sexual contact with someone. Definitely not the same. As long as you know there's a difference and will be able to live with the results after you've been with someone other than your husband, I feel you should go for it. I'm particularly OK with this advise given the "only married because we got pregnant" comment. No pun intended, but if it feels good, go for it!
2007-01-01 15:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by wvngseeking 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, I wouldn't have an affair, I'd get a divorce. Marrying because of pregnancy rarely ever works. Stick with your morals, & find someone who will treat you better. Obviously he doesn't care about your feelings or he wouldn't be having an affair to begin with. Be the bigger, better person & do things right. Stick with your morals & divorce him. You & your child will be better off in the long run.
2007-01-01 15:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by its_me_horses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lower yourself to his demeaning level. It will do nothing for your already damaged self esteem and it will actually set an emotionally negative tone that can be felt by a child.
Get out. Your home is not a home. It's a war zone. And that man is not a man. He's a pig. And getting married for the sake of a child...
It's much better for a kid to be from a broken home than to live in one...
2007-01-01 15:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey DIVORCE this man. First of all, its not right for him to screw around on you.Second, find you a good lawyer, file for a divorce and seek custody of you kids. Have proof to show the judge that he was having an affair. Good Luck
2007-01-01 15:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by teresa_lynn_36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cheats
no kids or just 1
your only 24.
Get out of the marriage. Having an affair will just make a nasty mess of everything and will probably backfire on you.
2007-01-01 15:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have an affair. But look into a divorce.
2007-01-01 15:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Snicklefritz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You NEED a divorce NOT an affair
2007-01-01 15:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT HAVE AN AFFAIR AND GET BRANDED AN UNFAITHFUL...... END THE MARRIAGE AND GET CHILD SUPPORT AND START A NEW LIFE......
DO NOT DISRESPECT YOURSELF LIKE THAT THERE IS NO LOVE IN THIS MARRIAGE AND GETTING MARRIED BECAUSE YOU GOT PREGO IS NO REASON FOR IT...... YOU SHOULD HAVE GOT MARRIED BECAUSE YOU LOVED ONE ANOTHER....... YOU NEED TO MAKE A BETTER LOVING ENVIRONMENT FOR YOUR CHILD.......
SEEK A DIVORCE AND MOVE ON! GOOD LUCK
2007-01-01 15:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋