so they are staying w/ my parents. My husband and I have been married less than a year, he's 27 and I'm 35, my son is 16 and my daughter is 11. I'm just wondering if this is how love is sometimes?
2007-01-01 07:06:38 · 30 answers · asked by 8 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is there substance abuse involved here? This is not how love is. Get into some counseling soon.
2007-01-01 07:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Getting to the bottom of what causes the total hell is crucial to improving your relationship. There will be bumps in the road, but both need to find compromise & understanding along the way. I suggest counseling for both of you so you both can understand where the other is coming from & it will give you a chance to resolve the issues that arise. Your children are having a tough time of it as well which could be a big factor. Talking things through instead of arguing or fighting will accomplish much more & you both will be able to resolve things more easily & without less hassle.
2007-01-01 15:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by its_me_horses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
blended families are not easy. But neither are regular families.
It will take some adjusting more than a year for this to take place. There will probably always be some discord and arguments. I would give it about 4 or 5 years to settle into what it is going to be. Also realize that your children are really in their difficult years now too, especially the 16 year old. Maybe you need family counseling to realize that this is normal. Don't give up on your kids and don't give up on your marriage.
2007-01-01 15:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This isn't love. And the kids are suffering from it. You and your husband are immature and selfish. You have been married less than a year and the problems are up and down. There is no balance, no compromising, you are basically playing a game of tug a war with each other. Somebody is controlling the relationship, and the other is trying to get control because of how it should be.
2007-01-01 15:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not know if you have a problem or you are just asking about Love.
If it is about Love yes Love can be anything any time, you just have to Love. If you and your husband are happy most of the time, keep it up life will be better once your children are matured to understand the life's episodes.
If this is a problem then you and your family needs a help.
With out details it is hard to give you any suggestions or guidance, please contact counsellor at nischai_org@yahoo.co.in in case you need help.
2007-01-01 15:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes. Men are weird and you never know how they may feel at a particular time. I don't know how long you dated before you got married but maybe you two need to date again and really learn each other so that you can have bliss more often.
2007-01-01 15:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by Marcella D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are lots of ups and downs in marriage, but if the bad times happen a lot more often than the good, you may need to get into couples therapy and address the problem now before it gets out of hand.
2007-01-01 15:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Ty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're in a manic relationship. No, this is not normal. Think about how unstable this would be for your kids. They are at the mercy of how things are going with the two of you. Too much. They need stability more than anything else.
Get into couples therapy. Good luck.
2007-01-01 15:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This may sound harsh, but I think you need to leave your husband if things do not improve.
I come from a family with lots of problems and parents that fight a lot really affect a child's character, especially your daughter, as she is still very young.
Think about the welfare of your kids.
2007-01-01 15:09:59 · answer #9 · answered by x-a-n 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, and if that’s how it is then maybe you’re married to the wrong person. You might want to rethink the situation and your proprieties, since you’ve obviously put your new husband ahead of your children by keeping him while they've been forced to move out since the situation at home is so bad.
2007-01-01 15:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love has its ups and downs, just be careful not to do or say things that you regret. Trust and respect are key to a successful relationship. You guys need to calm down if you're making your kids that miserable. Good luck.
2007-01-01 15:12:56 · answer #11 · answered by kyeann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋