How to deal with someone suicidal?

Question

Sorry for this so early on in the new year :-)

Someone I am close to keeps threatening suicide and it is really affecting everyone around. I think this person is not just saying it as a joke, but is actually contemplating it. I am overwhelmed by the situation and would appreciate some advice on how to deal with a person like this. Thanks.

Answer 1

I lost someone to suicide.. She would talk about it so often, that after sometime, no one took it seriously. Everyone just thought "wanting to die" was her way to let everyone know she was suffering that much. Eventually, she just did it. The first thing to do, is no matter how often tgis person says it, take it seriously.. Sometimes, we just want to die, and most times, we just go through these feelings alone.. When we say it out lous, we want someone to care. And if no one does, it feels more lonely and more likely for us to act on it.
Having said that, you shouldn´t deal with it alone.. This person needs a professional, maybe meds. If this person does it, you will feel guilty, it´s human nature... Buit eventually, you will realize in the end, it was only their choice...
Good luck, I am keeping your friend in my prayers!

Answer 2

This doesn't have to depend on religion because you get into territory there where people think what they decide about God is true or not and it is hard to change their minds, especially young people who have the feeling they are immortal. BUT no one can guarantee what exists beyond the grave. And the picture they have in their heads perhaps, of certain people who are "really sorry they hurt them" is a picture they will never see if they are dead! ( And I have found that people are much more ANGRY after a suicide because the rest of us chose to stick it out) Just impress the person that an afterlife is wide open and a dimension of Hell is not based on what THEY decide is or is not. And "they do not want to jump from the frying pan into the fire". Also there is a harder point to get across about the concept of eternity. Is a life here even close to the endless time of eternity? Eternity is forever and ever and ever. Isn't that the biggest mistake you could possibly make? The end of this life does not end the way we "decide" it will end just to please us. Suicide is a much worse choice and risk than living and changing our own lives year by year! Here we can make changes and we know where we are. There are people in all our futures waiting to love us.

Answer 3

Unless you are a trained professional, you can not deal, or help someone deal with a situation like this. The person needs professional help, and soon. Everyone contemplate suicide in there life time, but usually self preserverence kicks in and stops them, or ' the chicken factor'. Either way most will not do it. But your friend is asking for help, and he should have someone help him get it. If he has said it more than once he is screaming for help and someone should listen. Make an appointment with a doctor and go with them to make sure they get there. Good Luck.

Answer 4

First you need to straight up ask them "Do you have thoughts of hurting/killing yourself?" If yes, ask what their plan is. If they actually have a plan, for example they say, "I'm going to get a gun from (wherever) and go up into the mountains tomorrow and shoot myself in the head" (sorry that sounds so horrible) then they are VERY serious. If someone tells you how they plan on doing it and when they will do it then they need serious help right away. There are probably suicide hotlines in your area or take them to the ER. A lot of people don't want to come straight out and ask the person for fear of maybe putting the idea into their head, but this is not true. People who are suicidal actually want someone to step in (usually). Have you checked into getting this person some treatment? It sounds like he/she really needs it. Just don't give up hope :)

Answer 5

I just came out of a relationship where my ex threatened suicide on an ongoing basis. I told him he should seek professional help, but he insisted on talking to me. I am no longer with him and now am not sure if it was for sympathy or a cry out for help. I helped him regardless. Looking back, I wish I had told someone in his family, because now I am feeling the effects of this burden he layed on my shoulders. All I can say is confront this person genuinly and tell him/her she needs to seek prof/ help, and there is help out there. This person sounds deeply depressed. And people have said this to me before....if this person ever goes thru with suicide...ITS NOT YOUR FAULT!
Good luck to you!

Answer 6

well i believe you are suppose to keep them chearfll, always listen to them no matter how down they are, just listen. there are signs to watch for. usually a person who is truely suicidal would ask questions like, do you think alot of people will be at my funeral, if i die will you be sad, .. they usually are helpless, or at least feel like they are. keep an eye out for them. if a person tries to commit suicide and they fail, i was taught they really was just hoping for someone to step in. like a cry out for help.they are sad, but they really dont wanna die.... good luck, i hope that helps.

Answer 7

Confront this person and spell out the effect it will have on other
people if he kills himself. It would cause pain to everyone who cared about him as well as being a selfish and cowardly act.
Try to get him into therapy.

Answer 8

sit down and talk to them about whats wrong, see if you can help. see if they want professional help.

yuo may have to just give them time, but let them know you are there for them

personally I'm against stopping someone from killing themselves, but you could if you wanted, have them locked up via calling the police.
that could damge your friendship forever, but if you think you know better than that person does and don't respect their beliefs (if they have no mental disadvantages, diseases, ect) you have that option.

Answer 9

I would approach that someone and say that GOD can forgive any sin including murder, if you ask in a genuine/prayerful approach and GOD cannot forgive you for murdering yourself because you are already dead and cannot ask for forgiveness.

I would have to say that suicide would be the one sin that GOD cannot forgive.

Answer 10

Tell the person 'i will be sad if you commited suicide'