My parents got divorsed last week and I can't seem to get over it..plz tell me how to get over it.
2007-01-01 06:50:01 · 18 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give yourself some time, sweetie. Much as it hurts right now, let yourself go through the grieving naturally and you'll be okay. Hugs to you.
2007-01-01 06:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by Holly R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters, it's pretty awful of your parents to divorce during the holidays. Second, it's only been a week. Give yourself some time, allow yourself to feel bad. They're your parents, after all. You'll probably go through a whole spectrum of emotion: sadness, anger, guilt, disappointment, disgust, rage. And after a while, you'll get over it.
It's OK. You kind of have to ride it out, I'm sorry to say, because it's all out of your hands. There wasn't anything you could do about it up to the point they divorced, and there's nothing you can do about it now, either, except learn from their mistakes. Maybe that helps, maybe it doesn't, but it's true.
Hopefully, you have a friend or relative who can be objective and take you out for coffee and a reality check once in a while. Talk to people you trust, and hang in there. It will get better. I wish you the best.
2007-01-01 14:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by KD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you. The best thing you can do is not let it change who you are. My parents divorced when I was 11 and I totally lost it. My teenage years I was a nightmare to my family and everyone else. I did a lot of stupid things because my mother couldn't control me and dad was gone. I ended up in a lot of trouble, and it took me another five years before I got my life back on track and became a decent person again.
Understand that they both love you, and they each deserve to be in a relationship that makes them happy and fulfilled, which their marriage must not have been. Don't resent it when they start dating other people.
My stepdad is one of the best things to happen in my mother's life, and I love him to death.
2007-01-01 14:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take along time, and you never will get fully over it, sorry but you won't, don't try and force them back together, don't share information about the other with them, unless they ask. And they will, don't share details hey may be used against them, and cry, cry a lot if you need too. I had many friends in your situation, male and female, and that seemed to be the only thing that helped...sorry.
2007-01-01 15:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, realize that it's not your fault. Allow the grown-ups to work out the details and realize that these things do happen for various reasons. Accept what has happened and learn to deal with yourself in a positive light and remember to love them regardless of what has taken place.
2007-01-01 15:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by It's G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to let time take away some of the pain and as long as both your parents are still in your life and supporting you, then consider yourself lucky in that sense. It is hard and hurtful, but divorce does happen, and as long as the parents realize that they still have to both consider the children, then it could work. Good Luck and God Bless you.
2007-01-01 14:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can just read something and get over it. Talk to your parents, friends, minister (if you go to church) or anyone you feel close enough to trust. Really trust with your feeling. Adults are always good. This will take some time but it will get better.
2007-01-01 14:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by cinnagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce, sorry to hear this going Thu one myself. Sucks yes!! So what does it take to make it heal?? Time and talking to your parents about this is a good starting place, I'm glade my daughter is past the 18 yrs. mark to understand and I do not have to fight to keep her, and I would till my dieing breath. Hang in there, it's a long road for all involved here, there's no book to refer to as you know.
2007-01-01 14:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all things. Remember it was not your fault.Get busy doing things you like to do;hang out with good friends.Get into a routine that is comfortable to you.Try keeping a journal about how you feel. Take care of yourself.
2007-01-01 14:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not somthing for you to get over it. They are your parents and will love you no matter what. Would you rather have them miserable staying together to make you happy? Or do you want what makes them happy? Parents cannot stay together just for the sake of the kids. Get over it! 95% of marriages end in divorce these days...you're not alone.
2007-01-01 14:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by smallfry912 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋