She wants to break up...i can't handle it! PLEASE HELP!!!?

Question

My girlfriend of 6 years has been talking about breaking up for the past month at least. She tells me even though she misses me when we are apart she doesn't have a good time when we are together. She says she feels like screeming when she is with me. She says she doesn't want a boyfriend and when she is ready to start being with guys again she'll come back.
What i dont understand is that when she is with her friends i'll get a text message saying "i miss you, u miss me?" or if i dont answer shell call me 3 or 4 times and send text messages. She says she still loves me but she doesn't like me right now.
I went through the same exact phase last year an i got over it. My question is do you think shes in a phase or does she really want me out of her life????

Answer 1

sounds weird- break up w/t her dude. this is not s/o u want 2 spend the rest of ure life w/t

Answer 2

She is confused. She wants you and to be able to do what she pleases. How can she put your feeling on hold? How can she even say when she feels like being with guys again is she bisexual? She seems to enjoy the attention of having you at her beck and call. When you dont answer it drives her crazy. I say continue not to answer until she decides she want to be with you. If she doesnt change then you should and move on.You need to add a little spice to the relationship. I guess your both bored with each other and seek the attention of others and when it doesnt work you know you have someone to come back to. So sad if things arent good move on dont try to stay in a relationship thats not working.

Answer 3

whatever happens I can see she's going to mess you up a fair bit, the sooner you get over it the better. I'd say the best way forward for you is to learn to enjoy living as a single again (about 6 months if you have your own place) and after a year or two, you might be ready for another relationship, just this time make sure you choose a more stable person or say no.

Answer 4

I hate to break the news to you, but you are being played, bigtime. She sounds to me like the kind of woman that ought to be making you just gather your coat-tails up around you, and run for the hills.. I mean a halfway decent human being -male or female - does NOT behave like this. Be glad, be very very very glad, that you are not married to her. If a bear in the woods gets sprung from the trap that has clamped around his leg, d'you think he just goes right back and puts his leg in that trap again, on purpose? Don't you go being LESS smart than a bear in the woods. What do you think - that if you actually married a woman like this, you'd live happily ever after? The woman who is right for you is out there. Trust me, this one isn't her. She has you dancing like a puppet on the end of a string. Move on. Ignore her stupid text messages, and let her find some other sucker to play that game on.

Answer 5

It sounds like she is playing with your emotions or she does not know what she wants in a relationship. However, the best thing to do is not to worrier about it. Just sit down with her and talk about the issue and if she is still acting the same way then just get up and leave and find someone else that would treat you right and would not play with your emotions.

Answer 6

♥ she's sending too many mixed signals. when you know that someone doesn't want to be with you, do yourself a favor and end the relationship. there is no,"when I'm ready, I'll come back." you're not her fall-back guy.

don't let her treat you like this. I don't even think she knows what she wants. people like this shouldn't be allowed in relationships 'cause they just hurt the person they're with. I hope everything works out ok. ♥

Answer 7

Seems like she doesn't know what she really wants... maybe she is confused or whats to find herself... but you need to tell her.. stay and try to work it out.. or take a break and that mean no phone calls... texts until she finds out what she wants... it isn't fair to you being yo yo'd. If she wants to be single.. and casually date you every now and then.. and you are ok with that ,,, then suggest that....
Could be a phase.. could be she just wants to try the single life....

Answer 8

There is an underlying issue that is making HER uncomfortable. If you can adress it, you may be able to save the realtionship. You will have to use you experience with her to identify what it is.
Dont ignore it and hope it goes away, she needs something different right away. You may not be able to stand on your head enough to make her happy. You may not be happy with yourself, and pick on her too much, thats what I did with the sweetest girl I ever had. Be happy with yourself, love her for her, PROBLEMS AND ALL.
Good luck.

Answer 9

I think you need to get your head out of your *** and pay some attention to her and treat her like a princess, or you have to let her go. She needs some sparks and maybe a few flames! You relationship has probably gotten quite stale over the years.
Eather refuel it or put it out!

Answer 10

You say she doesn't want to be with any guys now is she experimenting with girls? Maybe you should let her go and if she finds you again, if you'll have her then talk. But you can't make someone stay if they really want to go.

Answer 11

Let her go and don't let your ego not make bad decisions for you as well. Are you saying that you did the same thing to her or that she did to you last year? If she did, she is possibly with someone else. If you did, it is payback.