I am having a wonderful hot affair with a sexy married woman. We both have spouses that are not attentive to our needs. We both think it actually helps our marriages by filling a gap that isn't being filled at home. We both go home in better spirits and smiles on our faces, our children like that we are happier around the home. Are there others that feel the same way ?
2007-01-01 06:46:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have a friend he is married and we get together now and then. I think it helps to relax him more. I give him what she no longer wants to give him...hell it works it works...I dont expect more out of our relationship_
2007-01-01 06:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 2⤊ 5⤋
No matter how much you think it is bringing to your marriage, you are being dishonest and dishonourable to your wife. You won't communicate with her about what you need, therefore she can't even begin to give it to you, and you have her thinking she is the only one, when you are out screwing someone else (who is equally and dishonourable and dishonest- let me point out that if your mistress is lying to her husband, have no illusion that she also lies to you, and you may not be the only one she is screwing around with thus putting you at even more risk of bringing an STD home to your wife).
If this is indeed something that is helping your marriage, then you need to come clean and talk to your wife about having an open marriage or swinging. As long as you have hidden secrets in a marriage, your marriage is a sham and a disaster. How do you know she isn't suffering inside because she wants to be with another man- you are obviously devoting your time to pleasing another woman, how could you possibly be completely pleasing your wife?
No matter how you try to justify it, you have to look at yourself in the mirror each day and know how badly you are hurting someone you have pledged to protect. Trust me, she will find out one way or another, and it is always best to hear it from you instead of being forced to find out through various possibilities such as: mistress does become attached to you and decides she wants to break up your marriage, thus she tells your wife; or wife gets suspicious and hires a PI; or wife comes down with strange symptoms- has to go to the doctor and comes home in shock after being diagnosed with AIDS while she has been 100% faithful to her husband. How will you live with yourself then?
2007-01-01 23:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by Peace 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know deep down what you're doing is wrong. This affair you're in won't last, because it isn't based on love. I know this, because if you really loved the woman you were cheating with, you wouldn't be cheating with her. Marriage is a relationship between ONE man and ONE woman, and it is supposed to be a happy relationship. I feel that it's actually worsening you marriage, because if you would focus on the parts that are hurting in you marriage and talk to your wife about them, perhaps get a little marriage counseling (which works wonders) your relationship with your wife would FLOURISH and it would be the way it's meant to be. I hate to say this, but sooner or later you'll reap the benefits, and I pray you're children will be strong enough to continue to respect you.
I'm so sad that you even posted this question. :(
2007-01-01 15:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by Be Still and know He's God 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So instead of communicating with your wife (who you supposedly love till death do you part etc...) you just bag it and run off to screw someone else. You just found the perfect way to undermine your relationship. Eventually one of you will develop feelings for the other. I don't know of one time personally that it hasn't happened. It's a road that leads to a dead end filled with pain. Enjoy the pain that is to come or try communicating with your wife. I'm willing to be that she doesn't "attend to your needs" because you arn't attending to hers. Ya, it's work sometimes, but that's part of marriage friend. Go figure out what your wife needs and desires and I be she will turn around and give back. Funny how that works...
2007-01-01 15:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Evolving 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It may help your attitude, but in all truth, do you really think it's better to commit adultery?
Why not sit and talk to your spouse, about your differences in needs, and work on finding a middle ground that satisfies you both?
Marriage is about commitment and loyalty. Eventually, your children and spouse will find out about your affair, and then things will go downhill.
Do you really want your children being raised around someone who doesn't love their mother enough to remain faithful? What does that teach them about marriage and love?
2007-01-01 14:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think you are both fooling yourselves and trying to make yourselves feel better about the guilt. The truth is that you are cheating on your spouses and your children, and if they found out they would feel betrayed. They would be hurt and wonder why they weren't enough to keep you happy and fulfilled. The kids would wonder how you could possibly throw their love away for something so silly as hot sex. You are arrogant and delusional to think that you are actually doing anyone a favor by cheating.
2007-01-01 14:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Your both foolish asssholes to think that defiling your vows and living lies are helpful to your marriages. To think that adults think this way tells me something big about the state of the world we really live in. The smiles on your faces and the better spirits your in have NOTHING to do with your marriage dumb asss, it has more to do with the fact that you just boned the person you really want to be with. What F'ing idiots you both are...ya deserve each other so why not make it official...LOSERS!
2007-01-01 15:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Sorry, I don't agree. I hope you aren't still having sex with your wife too cause that is just wrong. I hope you don't plan on bringing any diseases home to your spouse. I would leave my husbands *** so fast if he acted the way you do.
2007-01-01 15:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by Ohsooocute 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How happy would you be if you found out your wife was having her own wonderful hot affair with a man who made her feel things you never did? I bet you're okay with your affair because you imagine wifey at home with the kids, where you should be. Suppose she was tearing at some guy's pants because she couldn't wait to have him. Still feel happy about your affair, smart guy?
2007-01-01 15:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by wineboy 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
YES ......until someone gets hurt ,then it will suck , like really suck , your kids ,her kids , your family , her family ....and then there's you and the girl friend left ....just make sure you two really are good together because one day it's going too happen ,that's the only way that you'll STOP...but then it might have gone too far , and then you'll be looked at as one of those no good for nothing cheaters......enjoy or stop now while you two can....
2007-01-01 15:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by Bob 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
stop making excuses for your cheating behavior. Would your wife agree if she found out? Eventually things will sour. Affairs are never good for marriages.
2007-01-01 15:15:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋