Do Women In General Wish More Men Approached Them??

Question

For dating, that is...

Or do women wish more men left them alone and didn't bother them as much?


What's the general consensus?

Answer 1

I think this changes with age, also depends on the type of attention. When I was very young, too young to really be dating in adolescence and teens, I had way too much attention and most of the interest wasn't so much about dating or a guy wanting to be my boyfriend but mostly the desire a guy had for sex, this caused me to be very uncomfortable and I coped by becoming a complete tomboy, since I loved guys but wanted their company, friendship and had many similar interests, so for a long time I withdrew from the advances and found that my opinion of guys was that their interest was always sex and wouldn't believe anything they said because they'd say anything to "score" and then if they did, their attitude would change.Then when I was old enough to have boyfriends, I'd choose the ones that I had chemistry for and more often then not , my choice of boyfriend wasn't based on anything substantial other then chemistry and I would grow out of the attraction unexpectedly when just weeks before we were in the mindset of "true love for ever and ever and couldn't spend a waking moment apart ", So, I really had no concept of a healthy functional relationship.
After years of many loves and taking for granted my youth.But , before I knew it, I got much older and after a divorce, I became aware of the absence of whistles or friendly flirtations in public or a guy offering a seat or to buy a drink or asking for phone numbers and I remembered my grandmother telling me when I was a young girl and I would turn my nose up or react indifferent to compliments , she said that I should smile in response , lift my head up and even say thanks or something pleasant , that I should appreciate the flattery, enjoy it, because someday I would miss it when it's gone.To accept it gracefully because that's one of the pleasures of being a girl. She was right, I missed it, and could have used the compliments to feel a little better when I was feeling beaten from my divorce. Thankfully, there are many fellows who have a thing for older women, and I find the interest amusing sometimes if it comes from a man much younger but I still welcome the interest. It's only annoying when he's clueless, overly persistent and thinks only of his needs without regard to what I may be saying to him.So to sum it up as a girl it was awkward, then became a little much for my ego then as I matured and my perspective changed It was was empowering and now , well it makes me smile, since I don't expect it so much , since I am pushing 50.
My grandmother also told me "Youth is wasted on the young", as I get older she gets smarter, too bad she isn't around for me to tell her that.

Answer 2

Why do you think that women's dress standards have become steadily more and more revealing and sexually provocative?

It is out of the question that they approach men (might reality check that all important ego) so they rely on passive means of attraction.

It doesn't work as much as they want it to, so they ramp it up.

Particularly with the advent of these so-called "strong women" attitudes, the result of which is that men can't really be all that bothered approaching a delusional hypocrite.

Answer 3

I wish I were approached by more nice men. My problem is the men who approach me have no clue I am out of their league.
I am NOT INTERESTED homeboys, gang bangers, or wiggers.

I like erudite, funny, kind, polite, men with a job and a car.
I am not a car queen. He need not drive a Ferrari, Escalade, or Hummer. Just a decent reliable mode of transport.

Answer 4

I'm no longer single, but when I was, I wished that more GENTLEMEN approached me. Or, better said, I do wish that I was approached more, but in an appropriate manner.

Being approached without tact is even worse than not being approached at all.

Answer 5

as long as it's in a respectful manner and not some perverted pick up line, i appreciate men approaching me even if i'm not REALLY interested. i think most women are flattered by men taking interest in them.

Answer 6

Yes, I woulf feel VERY flattered and I would try to start up a conversation with the person just as much as they would want to with me.

Answer 7

yes...i like to know if someone finds me attractive. Even if I might not feel the same way. I am very honored and respect someone who can say what they feel.

Answer 8

they should approach me

Answer 9

..i am old fashioned...if you don't ask me out, someone else will...