My mom died when we were younger and I have a picture of her and that is all. should we tell him no.
2007-01-01 06:41:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he isn't married to her, she isn't even your stepmom. So no, you are not wrong. If he marries her, then it would be up to you if you want to call her mom.
2007-01-01 06:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOBODY REPLACES YOUR MOM. EVER! If I were you I would call her by her first name. If dad doesn't like it that's too bad. Tell him she is not your mom. Explain to the lady that she isn't your mom and that you mean no disrespect by calling her by name. I'm sure if she's a good person she will more than understand. Maybe in time you can change it to mom if you want. But for now I wouldn't. Unless of course you want it that way. There is nothing wrong with you calling her by her first name. I couldn't even call my mother-in -law mom. And she was a really sweet person. She just wasn't my mom.
2007-01-01 06:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by Me2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dad should let you call her whatever is comfortable with you. Maybe you and your step-mother should just sit down on a one-to-one conversation and let her know how you feel. You shouldn't have to call her mom if you don't want to, but she can be a friend and ally. You need to do this without your dad being present. Then she will have to let him know what the two of you have decided and he should live with it.
But talk to her first. She may surprise you.
2007-01-01 06:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's wrong of him to ask of yall because nobody can replace your mother. I'm not saying he's asking you to call his girlfriend mom because he wants her to take your mom's place but he needs to understand that theres nobody else (until maybe later in life) that yall want to call your mom. Stand your ground and dont let him make you call her something you dont feel comfortable with. You have the right to decide what you want to do in this situation because its not something that should be forced on yall.
2007-01-01 06:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by JMan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is, your dad should let you get comfortable with her first!
Instead of forcing another women who didn't go through the pain to give birth to you!
Tell your dad that you will need to get to know her better and then once you are comfortable and accept the loss, you can call her mom...
But I think that your father just wants all of you to move on... just remember that all you need is time =]
2007-01-01 06:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by silvs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom doesn't make me call my step-dad "Dad". She knows we only have one dad, and we're uncomfortable calling someone other than our real father "Dad". Tell him that you only have one mother, and it's not her. Tell him that you don't want to call her mom because it makes you feel uncomfortable. He should understand because when a parent dies, it's hard to ever think of anyone taking their place.
2007-01-01 12:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable with it, you need to let him know that. He should respect that. Besides, she's a girlfriend, not a step mother. I think a lot depends on your relationship with his girlfriend too. Is she trying to be a maternal figure in your life, or is he trying to make her feel more accepted by his family by his kids calling her 'mom'?
Do what you are comfortable with.
2007-01-01 06:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by LMP25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, sweetie, it´s NONE of your dad´s business to ask you something like that! it´s 100% your call what you call her. I have known people that called their step parents "mom" or "dad", because that´s how they felt about them. It doesn´t seem like you feel this woman is like a mother for you.. then just don´t call her.. Explain to your dad that you don´t feel like this... and tell him he should respect your mom´s place in your heart and mind. and no one will ever replace her...
Í´m so sorry you lost her...
2007-01-01 06:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don,t have to call her Mom.your Dad is being very unfair.It is wrong to make you call her Mom ,yes because she is not your mom...If he is so mean to make you call her Mom,she is probably pushing him to make you do this....I have a solution just call her "stepmom"
2007-01-01 07:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by slickcut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u feel its wrong or are not comfortable with it then dont do it. ur dad should understand if u dont want to. that is alot to ask. but if u dont feel like its a big deal then do it for him and her. but i dont call my step mom mom. i call her kim because thats who she is to me. same with my step grandpa i call him bill because im still attached to the one that died.
2007-01-01 06:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by sara ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. If you are uncomfortable calling her "mom", then speak to your dad and tell him how you feel.
2007-01-01 06:45:02 · answer #11 · answered by NAN G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋