why did u choose to become one?Do u regret ur decision?does the thought of ruining or breaking home of the women concerned come to ur minds?
2007-01-01 06:07:40 · 8 answers · asked by Indiana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is Muslim and so am I so he has a wife in Morocco and me in USA. I'm the second. It doesn't bother me at all. Well ok at first I wasn't ok with it just because I was new to Islam and didn't really like polygamy but now am ok with it. And his first wife doesn't mind either as she's the one who told him to marry another woman. I don't regret my decision to marry him at all. I'm happy with my husband.
2007-01-01 06:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by robedzombiesoul 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can explain from my point of view. One person I was with I really did not know they were married, person had some pretty good lies made up and I was hesitate to not believe what they said when it made sense and I felt the person had no reason to lie. The person had been coming to my house and the one time we went out to a hotel his wife & kids had been following him. We were more or less caught in the act. I felt horrible afterwards and started crying when I realized what had happened. I regret that I met the person and was so naive. Ruining the home had never came to mind because did not know man was married but afterwards felt terrible about it.
Another time I knew a guy was married. He claimed to be leaving his wife (something they all usually say). I chose to become this way because I could have anything I wanted. It ended later when I found out how many mistresses the guy really had. No regrets on this one. His wife is my friend now.
2007-01-01 07:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really isn't worth it! First of all the man will tell you how awful the wife or girlfriend is and how he wants to leave her. He never will and don't buy that he is staying for the kids. I have found that they all say the same things. So have other woman........they will also cheat on you too if you stay with him. Imagine this your cheating with him he tells you that he can only handle two women and then you find out that there are about three or four of you. HE WILL CHEAT ON YOU TOO! Not to mention your only setteling for someones left overs because you have low self esteem whether or not you want to admit it.
2007-01-01 06:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by The Red Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its NOT and I repeat it NOT a good idea... trust me!!!! I know !! U feel cheap,.. used and sorry to say, like a prostitute... Honey ,. the guy simply likes u fot his personal needs... You will never be the main course, you ll always be the fries or vegies on his dinner plate... You ll always be second anyways, after his wife, of course and kids. Sure, he ll say he loves u and cares about u but its nothing.... Dont ever believe a married man who ll say that to u. I ve learned my lessson , thank god! And if u have say to me 5 years ago that i will be in that situation, i would have laughed.. but i was and i got out of it!!!!! you ll fond someone much better for u than a freaking married man :P
2007-01-01 08:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by Clara L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends some women like being 2nd...and if that is fine with them that all power to them. Maybe the dont want a full time relationship and like the distance. I have been 2nd once and I so enjoyed the relationship I had and would do it again_
2007-01-01 06:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would woman settle fo second??? it just make us lower.. you never see man settle to become the second man... unless they want booty call.. but mostl we woman want to be love and usually the second will get pregnant and the married man will goes I have children and a family.. get abortion and when you don' t they leave you
2007-01-01 06:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to settle for 2nd in anything?
2007-01-01 06:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know the answer to this as i have never been second but i am sure i wouldn't like it
2007-01-01 06:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by kat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋