i asked a question yesterday about my disfuntional family(read it if u havent already) well my mom came home this morning drunk (as usual) and she wouldnt stop beating me with th broom, the chid protective service people are comming tomarrow night around 7 or 8, and she beats me in front of my little brother (who thinks i'm mommy) and my father just sits there and laughs at me, and my arms and legs really hurt and i have to take my little brother to day care(he's only 3 and i'm 14) and i have to go to work and my bike is broken and i dont have enough money for the bus, the day care is 2 miles away from my home and my job is 1 mile away from the day care but im in like really really bad pain right now, please help me what should i do for the time i have left here?? i have to take him to day care because i know my parentw will leave him alone and if my mom does stay home she's drunk, and my little brother noah is afraid of her, what should i do....
2007-01-01 05:56:48 · 22 answers · asked by koi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
should i just not wait for the people tomarrow and just run away with my brother??
2007-01-01 05:57:33 · update #1
cps is taking both of us, read my last question it will explain more of whats going on in my family
2007-01-01 06:03:06 · update #2
we dont really have neighbors, we live in utah where every thing is like farm and the closest people to us is my brothers day care
2007-01-01 06:05:19 · update #3
im supost to go stay with my grandparents in arizona
2007-01-01 06:08:51 · update #4
im gonna add my question from yester day, its right under this ok
2007-01-01 06:25:26 · update #5
How can i stop cutting myself and get help 4 my family??
2007-01-01 06:26:44 · update #6
i usually do it 1 or 2 times a day and i really think i should stop but i cant, i usually do it in the bathroom at my house or in the school bathroom or the locker room,when people ask where i got the scares and i tell them its from my rabbit scraching me, i cant keep lying and my parents dont care about me(my dads sleepin around and go knows where, abd my moms always drunk) i have to rise my little brother (he's only 3 and im 14) i have to give him his bath, i have to take him to daycare, i have to bring him home from day care, get his food, do my home work, and this is too much and the only way i feel good is when pain is involved because then i know i can atleast feel one thing. sometimes my parents wont come home for days and will leave like $20 or sometimes none at all, i have a job at the hair parlor( i sweep hair) and i need help, i dont wanna tell the people at my skool cuz then they might seperate me and my little brother and i cant imagine life with out him....
2007-01-01 06:27:33 · update #7
i need to know what i can do to help my family and my cutting problem, also when my mom is home she beats me, and i remember one day at skool, we were in gym class and we were at the pool and it was like a swimming final and if i didnt do it i would fail the class and i was trying to cover my bruses with my hair(its althe way to my knees) but i still felt like people could see them, they were staring at me, whispering about me asking me where i got them and i just told them i fell off my horse, the teachers tried to talk to me i didnt wanna talk, i like it better when she hits me atleast she knows im there, i really need help, but in a way thet me and my brother can stay together, he calls me mommy and i feel really old being 14 and been raising a baby since i was 11 years old, i need help, and guys are always saying "oh look at Koi shes so loose she had a baby when she was 11) (my name is native american on the count of me being a native american) please read the continuation
2007-01-01 06:28:11 · update #8
i dont have any friends, every body thinks that noah(my brother) is my kid, every bosy makes fun of me, girls walk up behind me and cut my hair, i get beat up by practicly every body, i dont talk to people, i live in Utah where in my school im the darkest thing walking,people always make the "indian sound" and they are just horrible to me and the friends i did have were fake, they just wanted to see my house, they wanted to see my living conditions so tey could spred roumers about me, every body hates me every body beats me up and i just want it all to stop, but i cant cuz i no that my brother needs me.
2007-01-01 06:30:05 · update #9
the rest of my family is in Canada,Alaska,and Arizona, i cant be seperated from my brother i'm the only person he has and he's the only person i have
2007-01-01 06:30:29 · update #10
the guys at my skool all think i'm easy because they think that my brother is my baby and are always aking if i'll give them bj's, i had 1 friend he was teased also because he was African American but he moved over the summer to Detroit his dad got a new job, and my family, we dont talk much just on major holidays, and native american , i just dont no how to deal with all of this
2007-01-01 06:31:00 · update #11
i also get teased cuz i have like perfect grades and sometimes just so they wont make fun of me i bomb tests on purpous,i no all the matirial i'l do good on the home work but if people see my good grades they all make fun of me, in gym i'v had girls try to old me under the water(they where expelled) peopel try to pull my hair out cuz they dont think that my hair is real, i'am just sick of it, i have people always askig to see my scars, i also have my nose pierced and they make fun of that and i just want it to all STOP
2007-01-01 06:33:02 · update #12
i'v always wondered what it would be like to die and i think it would be nice, but then i always think of my brother and if he spent 1 week with my parents he would die and i no that i want to die but i cnat, the girls always make fun of me i have NO FRIENDS AT ALL!!!!! and thay tease me in front of teachers and i was tought if you cry you are weak, so i dont, i just take the abuse from them, the teachers dont do anything about the teasing and i am the ONLY PERSON IN THE SCHOOL WHO ISNT WHITE, i dont wish i was white but the people at my school, i wish they would treat me better or with somr kind of respect
2007-01-01 06:33:40 · update #13
when my dad comes home he always smells bad, he yells at me he says i'll be just like my mom"only good for laying on m back" and then he makes me cook something for him, he takes a shower and leaves, it really hurts when your own father would say something like that to you, it's like maybe that is the only thing i can do when i'm older but atleast i can say i did a better job with my brother than they ever could have, i mean i would never say that to him cuz i no id get my a*s*s* kicked, i dont write things down cuz one time my dad read my journal and just started yelling at me and then my mom beat me cuz i wrote things that made them angry, i cant even honestly say i even love them
2007-01-01 06:34:30 · update #14
Alex(i love your socks!) im stayin with gramma and grampa so dont bother commin out, luv ya
2007-01-01 07:41:02 · update #15
Alex(i love your socks!) im stayin with gramma and grampa so dont bother commin out, luv ya
2007-01-01 07:41:03 · update #16
Alex(i love your socks!) im stayin with gramma and grampa so dont bother commin out, luv ya
2007-01-01 07:41:04 · update #17
Koi, i told you if they did anything to you and Noah my parents said you could come and stay with us, and i really do miss you,if its jessica thats still cutting your hair shes about the same size as you, kick her a*s*s*, and if u are going to stay with your grandparents(oh tell them thanks for the x-mas gift) i'm comming to arizona for spring break and i really want to see you, you too need to get out, and Koi for the record your noy gonna only for layin on your back, i no this because of a few reasons, 1)yur not a ho,2) u gonna be my girl and imma take care of you,love you girl call me when you get this ok!!! oh and for the scacrs put cocoa butter on them and or vitimin E it wil make them fade, oh and a stop cutting your self. love you Koi and tell Noah i love him too(not in a gay way) see ya girl, i really really miss you i mean we've been best friends since we were in 1st grade
CHUG LUV
-peace-
2007-01-01 07:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by tyrel 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need attempt to leave the house, take Noah with you, and get to a police station or hospital immediately. Perhaps you can call 911 from the day care. If not, think of a way you can head into town - bus? Call 911 from a public phone? It is TERRIBLE that this is happening and I am shocked CPS didn't remove you from a dangerous situation immediately. If you can get to a phone in your home call 911. The police will come. Try and make sure you and your brothers stay outside and away from your parents. When the police arrive, tell them the situation. Or call the CPS worker and tell him/her everything that you have told us - he/she should call 911 for you and have you all removed right then, at least temporarily.
Nobody has a right to treat you abusively! You are so young and I cannot even begin to imagine how frightened you are. Make the calls, leave the home - just do it as quickly as possible. I am so sorry you're in pain. Please, if you can, try to call 911 from the nearest possible place (i.e. inside the house). All you have to do if you are scared is press the numbers and hang up. The police should show up regardless. You NEED medical attention; you may have some fractures or sprains. If you must walk please only go as far as necessary. You can tell me the area in which you live and I can attempt to call the 911 there. Just send me an e-mail.
I'm really worried about you and I hope everything works out somehow. I hope later today you & Noah are in a safe place being taken care of lovingly. Please let me know how it goes.
2007-01-01 14:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a simmilar situation a few years ago, and this is the only advice i can give; You have to take your life into your own hands. If you are ready to live the life, wait for the child protection service to show up, or walk to the nearest cop station. You put in an orphanage and cared for. I jsut have to warn you tho, it is not an ideal solution. Hopefully you will be put in a good orphanage, but many orphanages are controlled by the older children who dominate everyone. Also, you are 14, and to be frank, people dont adobt anyone else than babies a cute toddlers. It is an option, but there is another.
It may seem odd that after my concerns over orphanage gangs i would recomend you to run away, but it is definately an option. If you run away, you may be able to get work by pretending to be older, and if you pick a fairly busy school, you could probably fake your way into a public school. These both are difficult and dangerous though. There is also a chance that you wil be caught up in a city's underground. This could mean that you get accepted into a caring "family" that will care for you, support you, and help get you the skills you need to sruvive. It could on the other hand, lead to you becoming a prostitute at 14, and dieing by 17 through std's, gang fights, or drugs.
Neither option is safe or easy, but they are both your choice. I personally choose the second, but everyone has to make their own path. I just hope that you rememebr that the choice to do soemthing is always your own, and that education is the best way to be able to make a life for yourself.
Now on to your other problem. Cutting. most of my friends have gone through this at some point. The most importnat thing to remeber is that it doesnt make you a terrible person. Blood letting has a been a holy ritual for countless groups. Just becuase you cut doesnt make you any less valuable a person.
That said, it is a psicological problem that has disturbing consequences for your future. Dont think that there is some magical word that will make it all go away, nor that all the willpower and strength is the world could make you stop it instantly. It is a process through which you will have to strugle, most of the time failing, but every so often gaingin a little ground.
I would recommend going longer and longer periods without it, starting with a few days, then a week, and so on. this should help break you off the habit, but your cutting has an underlying reason. If you have soemone you respect, and can confide in, then they woudl be the best to talk. However, if you dont have firedns like that (and it doesnt sound liek you do), then a shrink or psycologist would be the next best. If you go to a public school they may have one on campus, however, he/she may not be availible, so you might have to struggle through thsi part on your own. You need to think through why you cut, and why you dont want to anymore. Does the cutting ever actually help you deal with your problem? If you have a will, then you can slowly work thorugh the problem, both stopping it now, and working agianst it fro the future.
The most important thing for both of these processes is self-forgivness. If something happens to you becuase of where you choose to live, remember that it is your responsability (you have to deal with it), but it definately isnt your fault. And if you mess up, and cut on one of your days of abstinance from cutting, it means you have to work hard to stay clean, but dont blame yourself for breaking, its jut na addiction liek any other. Good Luck, I dont think everything will come out well, but thats life
2007-01-01 15:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by dreamstohack 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww honey, I read your first question, and first I'd like to say that you're being very brave looking after your brother and getting a job and stuff, I'm 14 and i wouldn't know where to start. Whatever you do do NOT run away, you'll just feel worse, and I'm sure your brother will be very upset. So are these people comming to talk to your parents or what? or are they taking your brother away from your family or what exactly? I must say you do seem to have cruel parents, I was bullied at school last year. Just as bad as you, I started to cut myself and then people asked me about them and I said my cat scratched me, but soon enough everyone knew I was self harming, it was at that point that I got councelling, she was really helpful, I don't self harm anymore, although i do still have a few scars that won't quite fade. I have some friends now, and it really helps to talk to someone. what about the rest of your family. You say they live in canada, but you could still phone them and maybe they'd fly over to see you and see whats going on?
Ok it maybe hard to be taken away, but dont you think you and your brother will be better off without your parents? I think it will do you good, to have a break from them, a long break!
That's all I can say really you seem like a really nice person, no-one deserves to be treated like you and your brother are
but god bless you honey and good luck! xx
2007-01-01 14:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off: I used to live in Utah and know how the farms are out there. Go directly to the day care with your brother and TELL them that this is an extreme emergency and that the daycare need not call your drunk mother to come pick you up and that you and your brother need to be taken to the police department.....DO THIS RIGHT NOW!!! Honey, this is very serious!!! Go to the police department right now! Take your little brother with you and tell the police everything you listed here on Yahoo answers.....tell them all about your mother, your father....EVERYTHING!!! Do it right now. Child protective services will understand that you had an emergency situation involving you and your brother and that you couldn't wait and needed to go to the police. Take the cab, bus, have a neighbor take you, but do it RIGHT NOW!!!! You and your brother's lives are in jeapordy, Sweetheart. I am a mother of two children, 12 and 7. As a mother, I would advise you not to stay in the house another minute! Go right now. Don't wait!!! This is an emergency!!!!! Good luck, Sweetheart, and be strong. I care about you. Please, don't wait a minute longer!!!
2007-01-01 14:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell a counselor at school what you have told us here online. Your counselor is required by law to report the abuse. Tell her in your FIRST CONVERSATION with her that you are worried about your safety if your parents find out that you have talked to her about the abuse. Ask for an advocate from Child Protective Services, or the agency in Utah which looks after these types of cases.
When you talk to someone about the abuse, be specific and accurate about the things which have been done to you and Noah. Do not exaggerate or make anything up. Any finding that you have been untruthfull may be used as an excuse to ignore everything you have said. Caseworkers are overloaded everywhere and are tempted to take shortcuts to lighten their workload.
2007-01-01 14:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by PoppaJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't even imagine what you're going through right now. All I can tell you is to call the police, or go to the police station on your way to daycare/work. They'll take you away from your house. I'm sure that they won't seperate you and your brother and you both will be able to stay at your grandparent's like you said. I really hope everything gets better for you. I'll keep you in my prayers.
2007-01-01 14:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a neighbor you have depended on before close.Take little brother to neighbor or with you for his safety.When protective services come ,be there and tell them you want home placement together.Get out of that hopeless situation.Sounds like your mom and dad are not responsible parents and you are very mature to realize the danger.Now get out before they do something crazy,like shoot someone or burn the house down while you sleep.At least you have help coming tomorrow.Take advantage of it!!!Good Luck and God Bless!!
2007-01-01 14:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by mcnatt c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telll your mom or whom wever that you and your bro are goin to the day care and that you are goin to work, But really you and him should go to the police station tell them your story...show them the bruses and they will help you out! I am sry that you have to go threw this with your brother at such a youung age. i feel for you and your brothjer and wish you both only but the best. Stay by your brother no matter wit dont let anyone take him away from you. Stay strong and hope for the best. You and your brother are in my prairs. Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-01 14:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by peace love & lipgloss 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear son, See you are too young ..
So please do wait until the Child Protective service people come..
If you think until that your brother will not be safe, then leave him with any of your friend or relative who can really take care of him till you come back..
Or try to speak with your dad about this and the way that you are hurted by your mom and how it is wounding you....
Try to make your dad to understand your pain..
Or if it doesn't work , just go ahead with the child protective service people and since you are earning, you can take care of your brother.
All the very best for you future my dear....
God Bless you.....
2007-01-01 15:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by rani v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋