she is 40,widowed,her kids are 20 and 19,both girls.Should she remarry after being single for more than 8yrs,will her kids accept the foster father?or will it remain a permanent scar over the kids minds of their mother marrying a man after thier dad?
2007-01-01 05:46:03 · 13 answers · asked by Indiana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
her kids are about to start their own lives...they should be happy that she is going on with her life_
2007-01-01 05:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well first off she has no small children.Her kids are grown women 20 and 19....If a woman is 40 and widowed,and she wantsto remarry then she should do what she wants,its her life she is living here not her kids life.it really should not bother her grown up girls if she marry,s they should be happy for her that she will have someone in her life and not be alone.She is a young woman still and she deserves to be happy,sounds like she has suffered enough losing her husband...As far as the girls accepting him as a foster father,he will never be that to them,he will be a step father but as far as those girls,they have already been raised....Im sure that whoever she marries will have a decent relationship with those girls, if for no other reason for the sake of their Mom..Their mom will always be their mom ,she won,t change,unless he is just a horrible person,i see no reason why they can,t have a happy relationship...The things that you said about leaving a permanent scar,thats just immature and selfish if they feel that way.The relationship she had with their Dad is now sweet memories, a step dad will never take the place of her husband that died.It is bad that their dad died,but its unfair for her to have to die too...This new step Dad will never kill the relationship with her girls,they are still her children and she will alwys love them....If you are friends to these girls please tell them not to interfer in their moms happiness,remember she did not choose for their Dad to die,but he did,and she must go on with her life.....
2007-01-01 14:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should do with her life as she chooses, no matter what the age of the kids. The kids, will lead their own lives. While children's opinions should be considered, especially if they are living at home and a potential partner will be part of the household, they get only a small vote in who Mom or Dad dates or marries. To live one's life because of what your children may think or like is silly...beyond considering their safety and the desire of your potential mate to get along with and care about them, it's none of the kid's concern.
Marry or not as you see fit and when you see fit...the kids mentioned are grown and old enough to be on their own...there is no reason for a parent to live their life to please their grown kids.
2007-01-01 13:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would she have to remarry? She made it that far as a single woman, and the kids probably wouldn't like it too much.
2007-01-01 14:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Stay single. I remarried after being divorced for 10 years. I guess I just forgot. STAY SINGLE! There is no reason to remarry.
2007-01-01 13:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by horsinround2do 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She must do what is best for her. Her kids should accept her decision as she is the mother. So remarry or cohabitate its her choice!!
2007-01-01 14:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by John H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a step-dad and hate him so much. But if it makes the mother happy then she needs to. And if her children dont like it then they need to think if it makes their mom happy. Thats what I had to do.
2007-01-01 13:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by Bowchickawowwoww 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't allow her kids to have a say so over what she does with her life. They're adults and will do what they want with their lives.
2007-01-01 14:50:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see can we mind our oun business, BUTT out of her life if she found happiness great, but you on the other hand need to get a life of your oun!!!
2007-01-01 15:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a man? Do the children know and like him?
2007-01-01 13:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by Philip76LostLove 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she needs to sit down and discuss it with the kids and see what they say, she might be surprised.
2007-01-01 13:49:20 · answer #11 · answered by so so 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋