I need to get my b/f out of my home however finding reliable childcare is my largest problem. I work 12 hr nights and cannot afford care all night for three kids, and then 3 days a week for a 2 and a half year old. I have no family or reliable friends to help out. However there is a nany service but they do not accept state payments, what can I do? The b/f is taking my car w/o my knowledge, threating to leave if I don't do this or that (i.e sex, ), and financially he refuse to work FT, and does not contribute financially to the houshold. We are all miserable, and cannot stand to have him here, he has threatend to leave and does when its convient to him, although financialy he is dependand on me!
2007-01-01 05:29:36 · 4 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there has to be daycare that witll take state checks...some of them have contracts with the state...call your caseworker. Kick his *** out and as long as the car is in your name he cant take it. If he does then call the cops and report it stolen. Good luck girl_
2007-01-01 06:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a bad situation.Its is obvious that this guy needs to be gone. The reality is that you need him around for a little while longer so you can make a plan for these children. If you are receiving State pmts, I bet they also have resources for these circumstances. Call them and ask. Meanwhile you should also be trying to get child support for these children, it will give you extra income to find a payed babysitter. I am frustrated just thinking about the mess you are in. i wish I could help you myself. Please call whoever is in charge of State Aid, or the welfare dept I bet they can help a little. Hide your keys, if you lose your car your really gonna be in trouble. Take Care
2007-01-01 17:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun talk to a case worker there has to be a daycare that will take state checks.... If not speak with them and they will find someone that is trust-worthy to watch your kids while you are at work... As for the man you need to kick him out and forget.... the next time he takes the car call the police and report him for stealing it... If he is using you then you need to put your foot down if not he will continue to do so.....
Think about your children they do not need to see adult situations and learn that is how you are suppose to act........ Good Luck and I hope you figure something out and you get rid of that low life moocher....
2007-01-01 14:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a user and is dragging u down, he is immature and doesn't see how him not working is hurting u and the children. he is holding u emotional hostage so maybe get a room ate to help pay half the expenses. got to get a plan going, as this guy is not reliable and can be gone at any time whenever things change for him.
2007-01-01 16:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋