I need advice. I talked stright out with her (faled), tried to buy anti-smoking products (failed), and held a small meeting (failed the worst). What can I do?????????????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
P.S. I am 11 years old, and she smokes around my family, making it all the worst. She is between ages 39-43.
2007-01-01 05:24:55 · 18 answers · asked by liliangiv 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Oh, she smokes almost every day.
2007-01-01 05:25:34 · update #1
She smokes outside, and I will not let her do it.
2007-01-01 05:29:09 · update #2
Did I mention I have a baby niece?
2007-01-01 05:31:14 · update #3
One last detial: she quit before and was happy... until 2 weeks later. does this have to do with willpower? cause if not, my head is ready to expload.
She smoked since she was 13, she smoked whne she had babies, and she works at a hospital.
2007-01-01 05:33:45 · update #4
My dad quit smoking when she started smoking again. my family has no history of smoking.
2007-01-01 05:38:09 · update #5
There's a lot of reasons people don't quit smoking. For some, it's a way to deal with stress. Others, it's boredom or a social activity. And for many, it is a true addiction- a medical condition that takes a lot to ovecome.
Until SHE decides to quit, she won't, and she probably won't want to hear an 11-yr-old "preaching" to her about it. Chances are, she already knows its bad for her health, that it's bad for the family's health, but sadly, it is her choice.
I understand how you feel. I once dated a guy who smoked. He proposed to me, and I really liked him, but where I'm alergic to cigarettes, I didn't feel right about saying yes. He decided to quit, didn't pick up another cigarette, and I said yes. We've now been married for 7 yrs.
What you've been doing is good, asking her to quit, looking for ways to help her quit... But it also sounds like there needs to be a change inside her, and you can't make that change- SHE is the only one who can. My advice is to pray for her. She needs the help and love and change that only God can bring.
Don't bring up the smoking anymore. Let your mom know you love her. Pray for her... Best of luck.
2007-01-01 05:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only she can decide to quit. It is a very hard thing to do. I'd keep letting her know how you feel you are most likely her best incentive to quit. After smoking for over 17 yrs, I quit the day I found out I was pregnant with my first and haven't touched a cig in over 4 years and have no plans to ever again. Good luck. You're a good kid.
2007-01-01 13:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by BlueFish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We as ADULTS are kinda' STUPIDO!!!
Pressures of the world close in around us, peer pressure, as we are growing up, kids, bills, insurance, light/ electricity...
The cost of Cigarettes...
I made a promise, NOT TO SMOKE, in the first or second grade.
I made it up to age 17, then it was a one or two a day habit, as an avid cyclist I pretty much put them aside, then I had a NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCE, and two other BAD CRASHES on my BICYCLE, going 30 plus MPH...
So I later RESORTED BACK TO SMOKING for my health...YAH RIGHT...
I never even really liked SMOKING, but eventually THE NICOTINE gets you HOOKED.
SORRY KID.
Just take some advice you got here, looks like a lot of good stuff.
Or, the next time she goes out to HAVE A SMOKE, follow her out, grab one out of her pack, and light it up...
When SHE FREAKS OUT ON YOU say, well you know, no disrespect mom, but even though your an adult, you look just as SILLY (dumb) Smokin' as me.
And if it is good for you, well it must be OKAY for me too.
Besides, the fact that you SMOKE, makes me about 2/3rds more likely to smoke when I get older, WHY WASTE TIME, MAY AS WELL START NOW, SO I CAN DIE ABOUT THE SAME TIME YOU DO...
We can have MATCHING GRAVESTONES...
WE SMOKED TOGETHER, AND WE DIED together.
Then say I love you mom, and spray her down with the HOSE.
DJH
2007-01-01 14:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by gemseeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand her smoking has to bothering you but unfortuantly it dosent matter how much you want her to quit she has to want to quit. I myself used to smoke and only when I was ready was I able to quit.
If she is smoking infront of you and that is bothering her I would ask her if you two could have a mother to child talk without her getting mad. Dont ask her to quit in the conversation but ask her if she could smoke somewhere where you are not around.
I hope this helps
2007-01-01 13:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by Cassandra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a smoker myself with two kids, you are in the right to let your mom know that you don't like it...however, you cannot force your mom to quit. I think the best thing is to just let her know that you think she should not smoke around the kids. Outside is suitable or somewhere else that won't bother anyone.
I keep my smoking away from my kids to that respect, but they do tell me to quit and it is not as easy to do so I keep them away from it until I am ready to quit.
Good luck
2007-01-01 13:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by Trese 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, there is nothing like being moaned at constantly,to make you want a cigarette.
Secondly, nagging does not make people give up, it has to come from them
Thirdly, you cannot imagine how addictive nicotine is.
Fourthly, you cannot imagine, but she has probably experienced, the withdrawal symptoms you get.
2007-01-01 13:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
y dont u try throwing away her cigarettes. then take out the garbage so she cant find them. she will probobly go out and buy more, but it will help her stop for a little bit. when she isn't smoking act a lot happier than when she is smoking. it might help her know that you like her better when she's not smoking.
2007-01-01 13:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by :) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get your family to help you, really show her what it means to you for her to quit, if you can get your hands on them, throw them out...even flush them down the toilet if need be (not the entire pack at once, the individual cigarettes), keep doing that, and hopefully for your sake as well as hers she'll eventually quit, but if she still doesn't after many tries of intervention, then there really isn't anything you can do about it.
2007-01-01 13:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not much you can do really. She knows she is putting the health of her family and herself at risk and is obviously not ready to stop. I would continue talking to her about it, even if you feel it is not getting anywhere. You can;t force her to change her behavior, unfortunately.
2007-01-01 13:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is an Addict. Shes addicted to nicotine. Untill SHE is ready to quit she wont want to, untill then you can keep nagging her. I think its great you didnt follow in her foot steps!
2007-01-01 13:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋