I am a female and i am chubby but why would i gain weight after we have created a relationship shouldnt i want my husband or boyfriend to be proud of my body and to remain the same girl or improve myself personality and body wise to make him happy. i now alot of women are going to be upset by this. Is it wrong to think this way?
2007-01-01 05:19:05 · 16 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, I don't really think that it's about your husband/boyfriend being proud of your body. I think you should be proud of it and whatever you do with your body, whether it's gain or lose weight, get tattoos, piercings, etc...it's your business. Your significant other should love you unconditionally and let you be yourself.
2007-01-01 05:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by Wannabeadoc06 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I really don't think people, women in particular, decide to "gain weight" weather or not they are in a relationship. Things happen like getting pregnant, age, less exercises, more home cooking...life changes! And as a result your body changes. Are you wrong to want your husband to be proud of you? No. Should he be proud of your body only? NO. You have to be all that you can be and it shouldn't matter to your husband what size you are! If his feelings for you change just because you aren't a size 5 any more then maybe he needs to look at what is really important in life.
When it all comes down to it...your size, color of skin, race or age should not matter when it comes to love. If you cannot relate emotionally and intellectually and physically then your love won't last over the long years or through the tough spots.
2007-01-01 05:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not just women that do this.... The way I see it is that a couple of things happen. 1) You may feel like you don't have to "try" to keep thin anymore so you "let yourself go." 2) A change in lifestyle can upset the balance you are used to - you eat more and you get out less because you are focused more on your new mate and less on getting out and exercising.
Any advice I could give would be to decide as a couple to go out and get more physical exercise. Get away from the tube and go for some walks every day. AND... try to eat less and eat healthier - together. Don't wait until you are in your 40s to do this like my wife and I did.
2007-01-01 06:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by Dean D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely I easily were married for over 8 years and with my husband for 12 years in complete and that i have not received any weight, even had a toddler and after wards went good lower back to my accepted weight, it truly is by ways one hundred pounds. so some distance as letting myself bypass, i did not try this both, i'm dressed and prepared popular, even as a stay-at-abode mom. I consistently take the time to keep myself up. i favor to look great for my husband.
2016-12-01 09:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex boyfriend that hated me gaining any kind of weight when I was with him i weigh 108 lbs and Iam 5 ft 7 in tall i looked so sick all the time my family thought he was making me this way and he was . he was always telling me dont eat that dont drink this and etc... I finally had to leave him cause one day i fainted from not eating anything all day . Now I am with someone who loves me for me not what i punch out on the scale everyday . find someone who loves you for you not what you weigh. that is a control freak not a lover . good luck and god bless.
2007-01-01 05:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women don't "decide" to gain weight. It just happens because they are comfortable in the relationship.
2007-01-01 05:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I think sometimes we get comfortable and we don't even think about the weight. My grandma once said love do it to you.. I was 120 when i got married ..lol i could never gain weight then after about 6 mths i was already 170... I think its just a comfort issue.
2007-01-01 05:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by Dareisha 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't think women "decide" to gain weight, no women in her right mind wants to gain weight. they just get comfortable with the guy and they aren't thinking about there body image all the time b/c they know he is interesting in them and they like who she is, and women don't need to improve there body to make a man happy, if we want to improve our bodies it should be for us and no one else, men come and go but we have to live with ourselves.
2007-01-01 05:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Most females gain weight because they are now comfortable. They don't have to nibble on that salad anymore at the restaurant. they'll eat whatever and not care.
if he truely loves you, he won't care how skinny or big you are.
2007-01-01 05:24:11 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a very good question...
Why do you do it... It seem to be nothing more than lazyness... now that you have your guy... you reckon that you don't have to try to look good anymore... you are very wrong.
I reckon that a lot of relationship and marriage brake up just because of that.
2007-01-01 05:32:44 · answer #10 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋