Me and my boyfriend has been going out for 2 and a half months going in to new years together. And hes asked me to marry him. We love each other alot and if im upset he gets upset with me, hes my everything and i just dont want to lose him. And what is the actually time that hes supposed to ask me to marry him. Or like is it to early for him to be asking me to marry him you know.
2007-01-01 05:14:57 · 27 answers · asked by Tootes_** 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes ***** anything can happen
2007-01-01 05:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been maried 4 times and the first three where fast courtships 1 to 3 months long and all ended badly the one i am in now is going on ten years and we dated and lived together for 13 months before we married. I belive in getting to know someone now before you get married is the way to go. If you really love each other, you can and your love can wait. If its true love you will still be together 1,2 even 3 years down the road. It will give you and your boyfriend more time to make sure that you and him are ready to spend the rest of your lives together.
2007-01-01 05:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by ware4349 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need about two years to really get to know somebody, at this point you guys are in the infatuation stage, where everything is new and exciting and eventually some of that wears off over time, and then the substance of the relationship is revealed. Then you start to find out what he's really like when crappy things happen, and how he handles crisis etc. I guess it's OK to get engaged, but set the wedding for a year and a half away.
2007-01-01 05:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please DONT agree, this is far too early. what age are you?
during the first 6 months of a relationship is the "hunnymoon" period, cant keep your hands off eachother and just want to be with eachother all the time, people change as a relationship get deeper and u will learn more about your boyfriend then.
wait AT LEAST a year or more so u can get to know him and his family alot better. make sure hes the man for u dont rush into anything.
its not a race, just enjoy getting to know eachother and having fun! make sure u explain this to him properly so that he does not feel that u dont like him!
and im slightly worried as to WHY he wants to marry u after thuis short time, has he done this with pervious girlfriends?
2007-01-01 05:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty soon. Only both of you two can know. I would take a little more time to get to know each other.
Love is a good thing. Do you know the little things about each other? The bigger things? What about religion? Do you both have similar beliefs? Where you want to be in the next 5 years. What are each of your goals? Do you both want children? If you have children, are you going to be a stay at home Mom? If so, Can you both survive on one paycheck? Don't rush into anything. If it is meant to be, it will happen. Get to know each other. You are in the beginning of a good relationship. Trust, Honesty, Communication, and Faith must be in your relationship in order to survive. Think about it before you rush into anything. He will still be there if it is meant to be.
Happy New Year.
2007-01-01 05:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no time limit on when to ask. Remember that just because he is asking now doesent mean you have to get married right away. If you know you love him and want to marry him then agree to a long engagement so you can give each other more time to make sure its going to work.
2007-01-01 05:22:11 · answer #6 · answered by just_trump_my_ace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Way, way, way too early. You still don't really know him.
You should be together for at least a year before you get engaged. Marriage is serious business with lifelong repercussions.
Also, the fact that he gets upset with you when you are upset, is a 'red flag.' That is not normal and could potentially be a forecast of abusive behavior.
Please be careful.
2007-01-01 05:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny Q. 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if he gets upset at u because u get upset than he doesn't handle problems very well, and maybe would not fare too well in a crisis. u need to get to know him a little better before u marry him, as he may not be right for u.
2007-01-01 05:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is too hard to answer without knowing your age. If you are under 18 then yes its way too fast and too young. I your over 18 You can say yes but make it a long engagement.You don't know each other that well give it time.
2007-01-01 05:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 & 1/2 months is WAY too early to be talking about marriage.
It sounds to me (based on your statement “I just don’t want to lose him”) like your afraid that if you say ‘no’ to marriage, he’ll leave…do you think if was real love that he’d do that? Of course not. So the fact that you’re worried about it says a lot.
2007-01-01 05:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds wonderful, but you have only been dating for 10 weeks, just tell him you like to take a longer time a bout major decisions, if he is the one he will wait forever!!
2007-01-01 05:29:16 · answer #11 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋