Ov'r the years she never attempted to call or write me, as she was a teenager she never had a boyfriend drive her to me. All along she knew where i lived, all along the mother and new guy prevented anything I sent from getting to daughter. 1 day she shows up at my door when she is 18 yo and wants to establish a relationship with me, and has boyfriend with. Ov'r the three years she never sends me anything on holidays, rarely came around, and very sparingly called(no holiday call). This year she was preg and only came here one time during the preg(at 3 mos we were told of preg). I bought many items for baby, daughter never came here to pick up, and knew of this repeatedly since Aug. She had the baby one wk B4 Xmas, and i haven't heard frm them since. I feel it is long enough this torch has been glowing. It is truly time I close this chapter of my life, since she obviously wants nothing to do w me, I should end it 4good..yes she from prior marriage. Should I end it 4 Good &go own ways?
2007-01-01 05:02:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
today she is 22living w/boyfriend in their own apartment since Feb. I send gift, they rec'd never call to thank, never write....
Shut out brother too...been going on since 1988.Showed up at door at 18=prove she knew where i lived, phone# was in book to make it easy. Not one effort to contact any of "US"...and still playing it..so it seems (both brother & me) Are we a matter of convenience for her only?
2007-01-01 05:46:07 · update #1
yes I would totally agree that it is time you ended it for good, although, you cannot blame her for when before she was a minor because maybe her mom said she couldnt contact you but, if she is 18 and still doing this I say try to get her to have a talk with you, explain to her that you need to know if she wants you in her life or not, tell her about the things you tried to send her and maybe this will help, if not just end that chapter of your life and try to heal from it
2007-01-01 05:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where oh where is it written that a 9-year old daughter is supposed to grow up knowing SHE is the one responsible for calling or writing dad??? How do you know she knew where you lived???
I don't blame you for feeling bad and sad about this whole situation, but YOU could have taken legal action and gotten visitation rights. So don't try the martyr act. Why would you buy gifts and wait for her to pick them up???
If you want someone else to give you license to continue your abandonment (this is what she feels) of your daughter, go elsewhere. YOU need to put forth some effort and hopefully, some indication of caring about your daughter & grandchild.
Of course, if you don't want a relationship, just tell her so.
2007-01-01 05:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This whole post is about you. Did you ever think she might have felt that you didn't want her? If her mom and step dad were preventing your communication then what else were they telling her? How can you even consider blowing off your own child just because she didn't remember you? I spent 6 years dealing with an ex that did the same thing to me. I did not give up and in the end I got custody of my teenage daughter and son. So get your eyes off of you and on to what her needs are.
2007-01-01 05:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Never give up on the people you love....
One day, she will bring that lovely new grand baby right on over to see you and you will all be happy. Just live life normally like you would any other day and just be more patient. Your dreams will come true and your family will be together again.
Much love and prayers,
Ally
2007-01-01 05:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy Ally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that momma probably told her to get lost since she turned 18 and she is insecure about being on her own with a baby. And you, Daddy is the new crutch. Need I say more?
2007-01-01 05:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by P/T Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to stop by or call, be nice & friendly, but don't
waste your time chasing her and trying to be a good father.
She is not a good thoughtful caring person..
2007-01-01 05:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋