When I was a kid I was picked on by almost everybody and I lost my trust and faith with humanity. I was the same when I was at college and at work and now at 24 years old I have finally realised how lonely it can be not trusting anybody because of how I was treated at school. So how can I learn to trust people again and think not everybody is that bad?
2007-01-01 04:49:35 · 13 answers · asked by RIP 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Personally I'm not a very trusting person. There are six people I trust in this world, and three of them are friends who I have known since I was little. There are "bad" people out there, people who just don't care about other peoples feelings, people who don't know the meaning of respect, and so on and so forth. I have found in my life that its up to me whom I choose to associate with, I choose whom I wish to befriend and who I can get along with. If you are able to overcome this, I warn you, be careful because there is the definite possibility that you'll end up trusting someone and having them either violate that trust or just throw it away. It will hurt, especially since it will be new for you and you may withdraw from people again, but try not to (if you do, take another chance). I find that when this happens to me, I learn from it. I've learned how much to give, when to give it, and I have made mistakes but I don't regret anything I've ever done (life is too short and too good to live with regrets [in my opinion]). However, don't compromise yourself because you are all you have (Janis Joplin said that), people will like you for who you are and if they don't, screw them (figuratively). Personally what I do, I analyze people, and I tend to make careful observations about their habits and their character before I attempt to create a bond. But hey that’s just me; you'll find a way that fits you and your personality. It will take time but it will happen.
2007-01-01 06:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lexy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you can't change the world, but you can change yourself. Everyone gets picked on sometime in their lives, but if you are describing this as your whole life experience then something is in need of a little personal investigation. Are you annoying? Are you extremely shy? Are you very different in appearance? Any of these things can attract a bully.
Time to take a personal inventory of your characteristics. You may be sabotaging your relationships with other people without really noticing. You can overcome any personality defects if you are willing to try or you can continue to fill the shoes you have walked in for the first part of your life. I truly believe a person can bring misery on themselves and alienate others in the process. If you doubt what I am saying, work up the courage to ask one of these people to give you an honest opinion of how you are being viewed by others.....you will gain a whole new perspective. Good Luck!
2007-01-01 05:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I approach people with a level of trust but can soon work out how trustworthy they are. You learn in time. I have no girlfriends because i don't trust any of them, they have always let me down and i prefer having friends far far away. But i can assure you there are loads of good, kind people in this world and ready to be friends with you.
2007-01-01 04:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't trust anyone either. people can be mean. that's just a fact. i think the point is in how you deal with that. no, not everyone is that bad. kids can be particularly bad about that kind of thing. i really can't explain my attitude about people. i don't trust, but i also don't give people enough power over me to worry about whether or not they will hurt or betray me. probably not a healthy approach to relationships, but show me someone who has one.
2007-01-01 05:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by practicalwizard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to just tell yourself to start taking things at face value. You are realizing that not everyone is a dumbass like the kids you went to school with so just give people your trust again and see what happens. Adults will make mistakes just like kids will but you have to learn to forgive and move on, not forgive and forget.
2007-01-01 04:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well truth is you can never trust anyone. Everyone has bad and good inside them. But you know you can trust someone if you know them long enough. You can trust people if they give you advice or something but never trust anyone unless you truly know them for personal advice.
2007-01-01 04:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by 10916a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One day at a time taking tiny steps. You already subconsciously trust someone whether it be the newsagent giving you correct change or the bus driver. Start with them and relax and gradually add a few more to your trusted list.
Getting totally drunk and relaxed may help too.
Good luck.
2007-01-01 08:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is tough-but open yourself up little by little,and let trusted individuals in.Not everyone is bad,it is just that the bad ones show their ugly faces up more vehemently.
2007-01-01 04:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest going to clubs that YOU are interested in not other people. Go to clubs and meet new people. Joke and kid around with people make them like you. Goodluck!
2007-01-01 04:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jim Somers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to first define what are the things do you want to entrust to people before u plan how to get about being able to do it
2007-01-01 07:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by bronson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋