Just had some news, and I would have expected to be upset. I'm not, I'm just very annoyed! I think I should be happy, but I can't help thinking how stupid everyone is! This is not the reaction anyone was expecting me to have, so I'm pretending that its no big deal. This is making no sense - I'm probably just ranting! Anyway, a question....
How do you ignore how you feel and be genuinely happy for someone else, even when you feel they are making a mistake?
2007-01-01 04:20:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just do what i do pretend i am happy and cry in the bathroom. It is hard to be happy for someone else when they have won millions it is just a natural reaction, that is what human being is all about. Pretending. It is like when there are two left on X-Factor the one is the winner and the loser wellll is the loser. However much that person is hugging and smiling and telling the winner they are happy for them , they are just pretending, putting on a brave face. We all do that. It is hard being a loser.:)))
2007-01-01 04:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People react differently. Often people feel great anger at learning of the death of someone close to them ... it's a very complex thing and entirely individual. There is no guide or handbook to emotions - they cannot be predicted nor controlled.
But, in answer to your question. Someone is, you feel, making a mistake but you have to pretend to be happy. But this person, in their own eyes, proably feels they are doing the right thing. Are there other people who feel the way you do or is it just you? If it is just you, then I'm afraid all you can do is smile and wish them well. If, however, there are other people who share your misgivings then you might all wish to say something to this person as an expression of your friendship and concern, and hope that they listen.
2007-01-01 12:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not easy to ignore your feelings and present a different face to others. You cannot be genuinely happy for them if deep down you don't agree with their actions. Don't make yourself feel guilty as well - your feelings are deep down and it may be an idea for you to think through WHY you feel this way. Meantime, it is probably best all round if you keep a low profile at the moment until you have had time to digest the news properly and think it through.
hope your emotions and your mind get in synch soon.
2007-01-01 12:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Star 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"How do you ignore how you feel and be genuinely happy for someone else, even when you feel they are making a mistake?"
You don't. That odd reaction is your conscious. If I say to you "Guess what! Suzie's marrying a pedophile, and is going to move her 3 8-year old girls into his house. And he's rich, rich, rich!", you are not going to be happy.
Your family will be capitalizing on the "rich, rich, rich" part, while you will be capitalizing on the ""pedophile" part. It just means you're more intune with what's going on than all the happy people.
2007-01-01 12:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't .. You are proably annoyed because you can see potential problems which the person involved cannot. But that is their problem not yours. Don't pretend to be happy for them just accept that (whatever it is - you didn't say) that it is their decision to make not yours.
2007-01-01 12:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by D B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's something that's going around.
The cold and flu season is the wrong time to eat at fast food restaurants.
You never know what's gong to be dripping into your taco.
2007-01-01 12:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just go with the flow - noone can control your emotions. Though having said that I keep having this strange notion that someone is controlling me like Im not responsible for my own actions. Maybe its just me tho...
2007-01-01 12:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by jane b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
never ignor ur feelings, recognise them, deal with them and explain to the person whats going on.
2007-01-01 12:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your tired and over emotional Babe...Just focus on the great things your new fella can give you..........
2007-01-01 12:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by JackLove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes dear, tell us the news, then we can offer opinions ok.
2007-01-01 12:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋