how do i get the spice back and passion
2007-01-01 04:09:22 · 17 answers · asked by DAVID W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bring in another woman, that ought to fire it right up!
2007-01-01 04:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by gunsmoke_70 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't work like that. When you begin a relationship it's always sizzling. Just how it is. Is the respect and commitment enough to stay together, that is the question.
I'm sure there is some role playing you can do to get your freak on. You can both go to a sex shop where they have toys and videos. Buy something. The toys are sometimes better than the real thing.
Be honest with each other about how you are both feeling and if the sex shop is something you both want to do then do it.
2007-01-01 12:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by jayndee13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the trouble: spice and passion rarely last unless the people are busy with other things. Get yourself something to do, something you both like like fly-fishing, or if that is too much togetherness for this point in time, then find things separately that won't tear you apart. Why don't you take up archery, and she can take up flower arranging? Or maybe, if you are artistically inclined, you could do calligraphy, and she could learn cake decoration. Just blue sky about it all and I am sure that something will come to you.
Happy New Year!
2007-01-01 12:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in order to spice things up in the bedroom you have to spice things up in general. I don't know what you guys do now, but try going out on dates more often, and you could buy her a new sexy dress that turns you on. Or go on a small vacation. My boyfriend took me to Chicago for a weekend (it is only a few hours away from us) and it was romantic, and it helped up get things spiced up. You could also save up some money to take your wife to a romantic resort to like Mexico or jamaica. Or you could go on a cruise, those aren't that expensive and they are VERY fun.
Other than that, try bringing costumes and roll playing into the bedroom, try new toys, or body paints. We just got a new video camera and that is Lots of fun.
Good luck, i hope this helps.
2007-01-01 12:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were a woman I would say sex, but considering you're not I would say romance. Take her out for an incredibly romantic evening. No arguing or family talk, just you and her. Do small things like nice notes, lunch dates, massages. And at the end of the month plan a full day of pampering for her or her and a friend. She'll want to return the favor and I believe it might be in the bedroom! Good luck!
2007-01-01 12:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by flirt6angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two thoughts I have about this. How is the relationship out of the bedroom? Are you having fun? Can you arrange to do things that are fun for both parties. The other thought is what are you doing to make things fun for her? Alot of guys want their women to dress up and do this and that but they don't really do anything. Personally I want my husband to look like the guys at the gym. A little more muscle would be nice, wear something cute to bed nice boxers, etc. women are visual too.
2007-01-01 12:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by Simone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explore your sexual-selves.
I know that sounds very, very weird. But I mean, try something new. Maybe try a different position when you're having sex, or try something crazy and out there like S&M. I'm sure you might think you'll hate it, but if you give it a shot it could be the spark that'll light up the fire again.
(Or not)
2007-01-01 12:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a bottle of chocolate sauce and a can of whip cream always does the trick for us.. LOL
Actually my dh and I just had a wonderful weekend alone, away from the kids. Try renting a hotel room someplace nice and cozy and just spending the entire time in bed :) worked for us. The jacuzzi bathtub in the room was a plus!
2007-01-01 12:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by kensjo63 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try going overboard with being nice. Bring her treats, ask her if she would like a back rub, just anything you think she would like that is out of the ordinary. Even if you dont feel like doing it. Guaranteed she will see you the way she used to, and you will like it!
2007-01-01 12:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by bagoftwix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some porn. Just kidding! Try having a date night. Put some time aside for eachother and go do something.
2007-01-01 12:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the things that brought the two of you together. Love never dies, we let it lie dormant, and it has to be awakened. Reflect and draw from the things that you were attracted to and the things that made you fall in love from the beginning.
2007-01-01 12:25:36 · answer #11 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋