I have been with a girl for 3 1/2 months and during this time we have had the normal small arguements but nothing to major she has had a abusive past up until me or so she claims. we always had fun and then 1st week of dec she began to become distant and bitchy also would tell made so many sacrifices for me and i made none. now 1 min i am a superhero the next i am a pos i found out her ex got out of jail a cpl weeks ago and shes seen him. he has beaten her many times over tell me why would anyone want that? she has claimed its a sickness but i dont buy it, am i being to nice to her?( there is alot of things i want to say but i dont have nearly the space & i know its hard to do) but please if anyone can help me to understand why this girl went from being a honest loyal person to a hateful lieing user please tell me i am bummed because i have really fallen for this girl, also she has bad mood swings my friend suggested bipolar?. thank you for your help
2007-01-01 03:28:49 · 3 answers · asked by scottysnaz 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Some people choose what they know. If she knows an abusive relationship and that's all she's known, she may not know how to respond to a non abusive relationship. She may know that it's wrong, but mentally cannot understand how to act when she is not being hit or has that threat looming over her. I suspect that there are other issues involved her that you may not be aware of. She has some other connection with her ex. maybe she's afraid that you'll never accept her for who she is. Maybe he ex has some info about her that he's threatened to tell you if she leaves him. How bad do you want her? She may be a lot of work. If she won't just spill her soul over what is going on, then you might want to move on, less you get dragged into her mess. You can't help someone who won;t be helped. If you're in a life boat you can only pull in the people who are reaching out of the water for your hand. If you reach for a person who won't reach back, you risk tipping over the boat. Is she really worth drowning over?!?
2007-01-01 03:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by Neptune 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She likes bad boys. Dump her and move on. Why waste you're time? Go find another girl that will like you for who you are. Eventually some guy will beat her to a pulp and she'll wise up. Move on!
2007-01-01 11:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by Pure_Alpha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away now. Don't waste your life trying to "fix" someone else or rescue them. You may love her and she may love you, but it's just not going to work out. You don't have to understand it now, maybe someday you will understand, but for now, just get out while you still have your heart and soul.
2007-01-01 11:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by mattzcoz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋