How can you get over being jealous all the time in a marriage?

Question

I have tried counceling but no matter what i do i still get jealous even if he looks at other women.

Answer 1

its part of our genes, we (humans) are protective of our families, especially of our spouse. With this comes a defensive attitude towards others, this is a natural thing our inner selves trying to make sure our lineage stays true. Sometimes we over react, especially when other, stimulating people are involved. The best thing to do is to let your husband know how you feel and work together on both of your feelings of this. Obviously it won't cure itself and like an addiction, has to be worked on with the minds of those involved, rationally, not spur of the moment tantrums, have trust and you shall receive trust, the best thing in any relationship.

Answer 2

When I was married I was extremely jealous all the time. It made me feel bad every day. I am now divorced because he cheated so maybe I had reason to worry. I had 2 relationships since then, each for 5-6 years and I was never jealous for some reason. Now I have another boyfriend of 2 years and I am not jealous at all. I think it has alot to do with age. When you get older you just don't sweat the small stuff anymore.

Answer 3

What you need to realize is that you can not control another person.....end of story. If he is going to look at other women then he is going to look. This si your own insecurity and by you being so over jealous your actually pushing him further away from you. Men look at other women....that is just the way it is. Do you not notice any other attractive men? He looks but that doesnt mean he would cheat. Believe in yourself and your relationship. Know that it is strong and this will not be an issue.

Answer 4

This is a tough one if you have already been through councleing. ( and I mean all the way through not just one or two sessions) and was it just you going or did you go as a couple?

Jealousy is a hard thing to get over. Is there any reason for it? has he lied to you about other issues, has he done something in the past to make you be suspiciouse of him? or is there another reason that just do not trust him?

Sorry but would really need more information to give you my opinion on the matter.

Answer 5

Everbody gets jealous in relationships...to an extent. You need a life outside of the relationship. Develop yourself. Why are you jealous. Do you feel as if another woman can give him something you cannot? If so, do something about your deficiencies and personality flaws. The only person that is being affected by you jealousy is yourself.

Answer 6

is it just you or is there something that he is doing to make you jealous? does he stare at other woman? the best thing to do would be to work on yourself! go get a make over. a new hair style. buy new clothes that accent your best quality's, butt, cleavage ect... start wearing some dresses and heels, make yourself feel and look more confident, make you mans head turn! oh and it never hurts to learn some new things in the bedroom! If you feel more confident and sexy then you won't have to worry!

Answer 7

I guess you need to grow up-----jealousy will get you no where but eventually ou the door. The best way to truely ruin a relationship is to be jealous. It just does not work. He' snot dead so it is natural for him to look--------as long as he is not touching.. Do YOU NOT "LOOK" at other men or do you have blinders on.

Answer 8

Poor baby! You suffer from really low self esteem.

Continue with counseling but you may need to find a better therapist! Good luck!

Answer 9

TALK TO HIM ABOUT THE BOTTOM OF IT. ONE CAN LOOK BUT DO NOT TOUCH.
If you can't deal with this then, be prepared for many bumps in the road ahead. This problem will get worse, as I found out.

Answer 10

You have an extremely low self-esteem that you need to work on. I would continue the counseling.