2weeks ago my husband tell me that he's not in love with me anymore.that he found somebody else that he love. but he can stay in the house sleeping in the guess room just for the kids if i'm okay with that.so i said no.the reason i said no its because it hurt to see a man that u been married for 13 years living in the same house as u and he's in love with somebody else.so i kicked him out but i cant stop thinking about him.how i can forget about him please tell me what to do.i 've been crying for 2 weeks now.i cant eat or sleep.i dont want to take him back and have the same problem again.please good answer.thank u and happy new year to everybody.wish everybody the best of 2007 god bless.
2007-01-01 03:22:39 · 4 answers · asked by kency 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bless your heart. This is going to be so hard but you have got to mourn and go on. It's OK to cry, you have been betrayed. You will have to go through different steps to get emotionally healed. It will take a long time. I am proud of you for kicking him out, He may not have his cake and eat it to. You have made a wise decision. Think about getting on an Anti- depressant to help you get through this. Go to counseling talk about this so that you will heal. Your going to be a mess for a while . These is not Magic wand that fixes our heart. Get yourself involved in different things keep your self busy. Its time to start operation you. Join a church go to support meetings. He made the decision to stop loving you. That is what love is a decision. Now you need to make the decision to get through this. I will be praying for you I know your hurting. this is going to take lots of time. They say it takes about 2 years.
Kourtnie D.
2007-01-01 03:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kourtnie D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey, you are going through a mourning period and that is totally normal. You are mourning your marriage, your husband, and your life with him. There is no way to shortcut through this period. You will have a lot of tears and your heart will be broken for a long time.
The good news is that you WILL get through this. Don't take him back just to end the pain. He is not worthy of your love if he would be unfaithful.
Seek out a divorce recovery group to help you get through this.
God Bless
2007-01-01 03:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i congratulate you for deciding that he'll leave the house, u are not a saint or a hero to be a martyr. you are right, why will you make yourself stupid. its not for the kids if one will say that they will sacrifice the pain just to have a father figure around. because if he is a good father, he'll always be come whay any cicumstances. and besides, it wont help them knowing their father has another woman but still leaves there, your dignity as a person is at stake here. dont make your child belittle you.
my advice, be strong. be firm in that decision. what are you going thru is part of it. but rest assured that in the future what u did will give you more pleasure and more benefit.
love your kids more. focus on them.
dont love him anymore, he doesnt deserve it.
2007-01-01 04:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by johannea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry! I've been through the same thing, so I know how you are feeling. My heart bleeds for you!! Please know that the heartache will end. For me, I got some counseling, and in the process, discovered a lot about myself - mostly that it wasn't my fault. It took about 6 months for me to realize that his leaving me was the best thing that ever happened to me. I hope that, in your own time, you will get to that place too. You are in my prayers!!
2007-01-01 03:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by clean-heart-steadfast-spirit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋