My eleven year old is very beautiful. Long silky hair, pretty eyes etc. However, she doesn't see that, she is very tom boyish. My boyfriends daughter is 10 and treats her horrible. She puts her down a lot. Tells her her clothes are cheap and ugly. Am I wrong if I tell my daughter she is jealous of her. How can I help my daughter keep her self esteem without ruining the relationship?
2007-01-01 03:16:49 · 3 answers · asked by Marcella D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do stand up for her. He makes excuses for his daughter's behavior stating that this is all new to her since I am his first girlfriend all her life. However, it has been 3 years since we have been together. He doesn't want to admit that maybe his daughter has some issues and I don't want to be the one to tell him that maybe she is insecure. Then it goes back and forth and he makes it like I think my daughter is better then his.
2007-01-01 03:56:03 · update #1
take your daughter on a mom and daughters day only you two, take her to the beauty shop make her feel special and girly, have her nails done, buy her a new out fit she picks out, and you are right the other girl is probley jealous and you need to tell your boy friend to have a talk with his daughter if he defends her behaviour than maybe you should rethink the relationship with him, Your daughter is at the in between age of becoming a young lady and wanting to stay little, It is a hard time, I have an 11 year old daughter my self, but if you keep praising her and showing her you love her and keep her talking to you she will be fine, kids are mean and nasty when it comes to jealousy, and maybe you should keep the two girls apart for a while, I know it doesn't help them to get use to each other, but your daughter don't need to be critisized by another child right now. I hope all goes well in this situation.
2007-01-01 03:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by blueigurl34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her to be herself and to ignore this other girl as she is being very rude and mean. This happens pretty regular with kids this age. Usually they will grow out of it,,,it is just a stage that they go through. Don't try to push her into growing up to fast. She needs what childhood she has left.....I think you must have a very beautiful girl here so BE HAPPY with her.....
2007-01-01 11:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And why haven't you discussed the mistreatment of your boyfriend's daughter with your BOYFRIEND?
It should start there, and then you should be supportive of your own daughter.
If your daughter is forced to be humiliated on a daily basis without you standing up for her to the boyfriend, you are NOT much of a mom.
2007-01-01 11:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋