i havea friend at school and we been best friends gor 2 years now but she is acting like she is not my friend but when ever i ask her im i you best friend or your friend she says best friend but she doesnt really act like it so what should i do please tell me and if you dont have a clue thx anyways for trying
2007-01-01 03:11:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I THINK "TRUE FRIENDS" ARE REALLY HARD TO FIND. SHE DOES NOT SOUND LIKE ONE. IF SHE WAS YOUR FRIEND YOU WOULD KNOW IT.
2007-01-01 03:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Tracie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if this person is more of an aquaintance than a friend. Best friends are, in some cases, are closer than some siblings. Friendship is much like a marriage. There is a 50/50 balance or at least there should be. If you were really best friends you wouldn't have to ask.
Either she is your best friend or she's not. If she's not acting like a best friend then the chances are that she doesn't really consider you one. I wouldn't put a lot of effort into a relationship where there's doubt where you stand in it.
You can be friendly when you see each other but don't bother trying to build a close bond with her because she's silently telling you that is not what she wants...at least not with you. Get to know other people and find someone who can appreciate and cherish having a best friend like you. Good Luckl
2007-01-01 11:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've heard "actions speak louder than words" right? That applies here and in ALL relationships. If she acts like she's not a friend but only talks like she is, she's not really a friend. Friendship is something that needs to be defined by the folks involved. What you think is friendly, may not be what you think is friendly so you might try talking about it with her. You need to know there is a lot of ego involved in these things and she may not be able to discuss it.
2007-01-01 11:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omgsh i been though that samething, on both sides of the problem. I think, you and her need either some time appart, or a fun shopping day at the mall. But i think it would be better if you two didnt talk for a day or two do you know why? I thought a friend of mine wasnt really a friend of mine, so i decided to take sometime away from her to let her chill or whatever, i went to hang out with some of my firemds i hadnt talked to in years. After the two days, she explained to me why she was acting this way, and appologized to me. I've also been on that side of the problem where a friend thinks your mad at her. I was mad, but my friend kept asking me why i wasnt so happy as i normally was around her. she asked me so much i havent talked to her in 1-2 years. so basically my advise is this:
Give your friend some space. If that doesnt work, go shopping to gether, or do what you to love to do together. And whatever you do DONT ask her anything like "are you my friend" or "are you mad at me?" or "Why dont we ever talk anymore". Those phrase ruin a friendship [big time]. I hope me advise is at least help you with part of the problem, but i hope it works for the two of you. I my advise was a piece of bologne, then I hope you get good advise to help with your problem.
2007-01-01 11:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by debbers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend might be distracted with some problem or maybe her interests are slowly seeking other people. The same thing has happened to me and to my friends, but I have learned to accept it. Perhaps it is a good thing even if you can't see it. Perhaps you two will be friends again as you grow older and mature a bit more, then you will have more things in common again. Don't worry, eventually things will be alright.
2007-01-01 11:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by Walking Contradiction 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would continue to be friends with her, but I wouldn't trust her. I wouldn't tell any of your secrets or anything that you don't want repeated. I work with a few girls like you described. I am nice and polite to them, but I am also guarding my back. Have you heard the saying keep your friends close, but your enemies closer? Be careful!
2007-01-01 11:16:42 · answer #6 · answered by Deborah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The definition of being a friend matters here.
I have got a friend whom I was always ready to help out with his problems. So I'm a friend.
Another friend who always goes out of the way to help me. I consider her to be a friend. But given how little I have done for her, I don't quite consider myself to be a worthy friend of hers. But she takes me as a friend!
I think how much you are ready to do for another person qualifies you as friend of his/her. If she still listens to your problems then she is still putting in effort to maintain friendship.
2007-01-01 11:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by jtextures 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes. I and my friends used to talk behind one another's backs all the time, yet when we were around each other, we always had fun.
2007-01-01 11:13:44 · answer #8 · answered by India 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
actions speaks louder than words
2007-01-01 11:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL YOU SHOULD TALK TO HER THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME AND WE ARE NOT FRIENDS ANYMORE WE R ENEMYS SHE THINKS SHE IS POPULAR AND STUFF
2007-01-01 11:15:01 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋