how can i overcome my shyness?

Question

i am a very shy person. it is very hard for me to talk to or get 2 know people including the opposite sex. it is also hard for me to look people in the eye while i speak. how can i overcome my shyness? i need positive answers that will help.

Answer 1

By getting Laid!!!! Woot Woot
lol
Nah jokes just open up more convo and build up your confidence

Answer 2

I'm the same way also. One thing that helped me was reading
a book called, "The Highly Sensitive Person" by Elaine Aron
(10.20 at amazon.com) It brings out the good things about being this type of person. I was always feeling bad about myself. It also talks about coping in an overstimulating world.
America favors very outgoing, extroverted people, and that's fine, unless your not. If we lived in a different country that favored the more sensitive, introverted people, we would fit right in.

Anyway, I went to amazon to get the right name for this book.
I lost my copy. I'm going to get me another copy. I noticed they
had some more books by the same author that I haven't read; but I put them on my wish list on amazon.

One was "The Highly Sensitive Guide: Essential Skills for Living in an Overrwhelming World" (11.58) and "The Highly Sensitive Persons Workbook."

There were other books on the subject by other authors, but I'm only familiar with this one. I put them on my wish list anyway.
I may get them later.

Well, I hope this wasn't overwhelming :) I would just start with that first book and if you feel like reading any of the others go at your own pace.

Another thing that I finally have started doing if I'm feeling very shy is just plain out telling the person, "I'm kind of a shy person."
or "I'm feeling shy right now." I always felt embarresssed about it and tried to hide it and try to come across like an extrovert. I
personally have found recently, if I just admit it it takes the edge off because I don't have to put all that energy into covering up.

I wish you the very best and blessings for the New Year. :)

Answer 3

I am the same way. As I get older I have learned that meeting new people is just like any other fear. You have to tackle it straight on...little by little. Talk yourself into going to large functions and make a deal with yourself to speak with at least 1 person at that function. If it is any comfort to you as you get older you either adapt and accept that you are shy and do not mind it or you become a little more carefree about life and begin to not care what other people think as much. Just remember that you are not alone. It is our biology and a battle of the mind. Good luck...

Answer 4

i am justttt like that thats why i am always on the computer because i can be out spoken an not shy an who ever i wanna be but in personi cant look any one in the eye when i talk it is hard for me to get to know ppl i am quiet most the time an all or at least i used to be i am still shy but i have over come much of it with time an experiacne so will you but you gotta work on it start with tellin your self every day you have nothing to loose by living your life so just put your self out there when you wanna yell but your to shy to do it any way what do you got to loose it sounds hard but when you over come your fear in which case if you ever hope to get better you will need to do this so do it an if you need any more help just halla at me (write me an email) lol

Answer 5

you know. just take it slow. don't think you will become comfortable over night. it's impossible. you know just think one person at a time. and don't even think about the opposite sex now. you know you don't have to change who you are. just find someone that likes the way you are and then slowly start to change..take your time! change slowly...not overnight

Answer 6

Well, I'm trying to overcome that myself. You just have to be confident.