2007-01-01 03:02:55 · 33 answers · asked by angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You might look in the possiblity that he is cheating.
2007-01-01 03:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by rjinaz81 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Men are always in the mood. They think about it all the time at least that is what I have been told by a number of brothers, friends and listening to conversations at the local coffee shop and bar....lol Anyways, there is a bigger problem. You may need to renew some of those old feelings. Make a date with him, dinner candle light, music, soft touching and let the feelings come thru. Just let it happen and if it does not the next day talk about it. He may need help, something physically wrong, a problem that is on him mind that he has not talked to you about, a self-esteem issue. There is no telling. But for now, try rekindling the feelings you both once shared.
I had another thought. How often do you want it? Are you asking for it more than just the usual.... or at bad times. After a 12 hour day at a difficult job or right after a fight just won't happen.
2007-01-01 03:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by Miki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband may be concerned about his performance and doesn't want you to know. How's his health? If he has no obvious health problems, stop initiating sex and let him come to you. Give him a hug or kiss during the day (don't go overboard) and let him know you love him. He may come around, if he's allowed to initiate sex and if he feels more relaxed in bed. If you're wearing sexy lingerie and the like to entice him, stop for a while. This is intimidating to a man who feels that he may not be able to satisfy you.
BTW: If you've gained a considerable amount of weight, that may be a turn off, as well. Get on a diet that you can live with and lose a few pounds.
2007-01-01 03:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you tried to dress sexy to go to bed and see if you can make him in the mood if not. Maybe he needs to see a Dr. might have ED and is scared about it. But talk to him about why he is never in teh mood and also tell him he should go get a Dr. to check him out make sure he's alright, Also I am always in the mood so IM me and we can chat about it.
2007-01-01 03:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a hormonal condition called sexual anorexia, and it is when men (or women) have low sex drive due to abnormally low levels of testosterone. Testosterone is what gives men and women their sex drive, which is why men, who naturally have higher testosterone than women, usually want it more. In your husband's case, he may have very low levels of testosterone -- and must -- because if you want it so bad that you offered a threesome, and he said no, then the man clearly has a problem!!
This sounds like it goes way beyond "I'm tired/work too hard", etc, and sounds like a physiologiocal problem.
As for what to do, you can either (a) go to a licenced sex therapist or an endocrinologist to have his hormone levels examined, or (b) if you get tired of trying with him, email me at tigershark30@yahoo.com!!!
2007-01-01 03:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would deffnitely look into the possibliity that he might be cheating because I have never known a man to never be in the mood. If he's not cheating maybe he is worried that maybe he is not satisfying you. Make sure he knows that he is even if you have to fake it.
2007-01-01 13:25:09 · answer #6 · answered by lookingfor_mrrightnow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't state his age and that makes any suggestions difficult. If he's over 40 then it might be that his body isn't producing enough testosterone. If this is the case his can either wear a patch daily or go get a short every few weeks. Either way it's worth it, just ask my wife. Good luck.
2007-01-01 03:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. My husband has no desire for me. He never has really. I've talked to him about it and I'm fed up with the whole situation. I'm thinking of divorcing in search of a more passionate romantic love affair.
2007-01-01 03:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him "do you not find me attractive anymore?" Put on some sexy clothing and see if you can get a rise(no pun intended) outta him. Make something really good that he likes for dinner and put on some mood music.
2007-01-01 03:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is go to where he is and talk to him, it could be his health or finances or just problems he doesn't want to burden you about. Sometimes my husband isn't in the mood when work slows down and he gets worried, so please talk to him and good luck.
2007-01-01 03:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by bluemist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My worthless ex-husband was never in the mood, either.
I tried everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING. You name it, I tried it: suggesting that he have his hormone level checked; giving him every kind of sexual activity you can think of; offering him a 3-way; EVERYTHING.
It turned out that he actually wasn't interested. At all. I still think it was a hormonal problem.
I divorced him (for this AND many other reasons) and officially Gave Up. Good luck to you; you may just have a Dead Dick on your hands.
2007-01-01 03:08:41 · answer #11 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋