How is this adultery? I don't get it?

Question

First of all, I've never been married nor divorced, don't have kids, never been in a relationship and not attracted to anyone.

In the bible and some people's beliefs, says that if you marry a divorced man or woman(depends what gender you are) you are commiting adultery. That doesn't make sense. Or if you are divorced and you marry again you commit adultery.

Well how is it commiting adultery if you divorced only for the reasons of from extreme of abuse or irreconcilable differences. And you never divorced for another man(like Amy Grant did) or woman.

So how is that adultery when cheating wasn't involved? I hope this makes sense.

Answer 1

"Let no man put asunder"

Simply, once you are married before God, you are always married because no man can un-marry you. Unless you are Catholic because they get to do whatever they want and make up the rules as they go. But even then, they are not re-marrying, they negate or anull the first marriage and say it never really happened in the first place.

So if the first marriage in the eyes of God never ended, then the "second" marriage occurs to a man or a woman who is STILL married and therefore committing adultery when the marriage is consummated.

Answer 2

My guess is that not everyone views divorce the same; some of us feel that it is the absolute dissolution of a marriage, leaving the person free to re-marry, and some people believe it means that the couple may split up, but are never really separated. I've heard of some who feel that a divorced man may re-marry, but not a divorced woman. And some people don't believe in divorce at all.

In some people's view, adultery is having sex with anyone who isn't your (husband/wife), and that would include any boyfriends you had before you even MET your future husband.

Everyone has his own opinion, and it's a damned touchy subject with many. The Bible is no real help, because it has so many viewpoints from so many people...and all of them men.

Answer 3

The bible says that in cases where one spouse has committed adultery, divorce is allowed.

Be careful about some of the literal translations of the Bible. The text was written in Hebrew and Greek and then translated. For example: The Bible says that "widoows" can remarry. When you look at the greek meaning of the word "widow" it means "a woman who has been left or forsaken". That would apply to any woman who has been left by her husband and it not limited to those who have lost a spouse through death.

Answer 4

This is a religiouse belief of adultery not a legal one.

The state recognized divorce for any reason, but the bible does not recognize divorce as an option in most cases.

In the eyes of the church they believes if the marriage is not annuled(sp) by the church then it is still binding even if you went through the state to have the divorce finalized.

The church will only annule(sp) a marriage in very strict situations and it is relatively hard to have this approved. But if you do not get an annulement from them the church still considers you married (even if the state approved the divorce) therefore if you remarry you are committing adultery in the eyes of the church.

Answer 5

It's a biblical answer. First, you are committing adultery in the eyes of God if you marry someone that has been divorced for any reason except infidelity. The Bible does refer to infidelity as the only reason acceptable to get a divorce. Therefore, if you marry a person that was divorced for any reason other than the aforementioned, it's adultery in the eyes of God. It doesn't matter whether you've been married or not. I'm not a theologian, but I believe it's referred to in Corinthians I or II somewhere around chapter 14.

Answer 6

Divorce was not recognized for the reasons we divorce now. In the bible there are very few reasons that are acceptable in the eyes of the Lord to divorce. Marriage is not actually about love, its about committment, family. Loving the partner was just an added bonus. Remember they mainly had arranged marriages. So if you left your spouse and divorced for lack of love (which was not part of the deal in the first place) then you move onto another partner thats adultery. By the standards of that time. I hope this helps.

Answer 7

My understanding of the Old Testament bible is that it permits divorce only for reasons of adultrery (i.e. if your spouse cheats on you). The bible does not list abuse or irreconcilable differences as a valid reason for divorce, so technically those folks are still married. So being in a relationship with them is considered adultery. The difference here is what God defines as a valid reason for divorce, versus what man defines as valid reasons for divorce.

Answer 8

The way I understand it is once you are married in the eyes of God that it is til death do you part.

Well in my case another person did us part. That is adultery.
I really was crushed because I had to get a divorce. I was married for 28 years.

I know in my heart that God wants me to be happy. And there are others out there that God wants to be happy. When the time is right I will meet someone else that I would want to spend the rest of my life with, It will happen.

Answer 9

YEs it does and it is saying in the old ways that it is adultry. Because back in the days you couldn't get divorced just you would leave. Now a day when your married by the church and if you seek a divorce you should also should seek an annulment from the marriage and that way you can't commit adultry. Mostly now a days only religious people will see it as adultry. Becasue as the wedding vows says it until death do us part. ANd some churchs don't believe in divorce, want to chat more about it just IM me

Answer 10

It makes perfect sense and the way I look at it it's not adultery. Adultery is when you are married go out with or have sex with a married person and or a married person does the same with you.
A divorced person is once again single and is able to move about for a new helpmate.