I am bipolar and have depression?

Question

My wife and I have been married for 17 years and seems to me I from what my wife says anyway that I have been causing our marital problems. I am argumentative, don't care about anything but myself. She is a control nut and driving me crazy any ideas? We are starting counseling but I am about ready to say hit the road honey.....

Answer 1

I have dated a man for 3 years now that is bi-polar and depressed, it is by far the most difficult relationship I have ever been in, it has taken a lot of time for me to realize he is going to have ups and downs, highs and lows, and will be unbearable at times. She may feel out of control and responsible for your mood swings and is probably just confused on whether it is you or your conditions. I know this is how I felt for a very long time until we started talking about his peaks. You do not notice them as well as the people around you and she is the closest to you, therefore, she can see the emotional changes better than you.

Just remember if you give up on this relationship then you will only find yourself in the same situation with another woman who you will label the same as your wife because she will see your mood swings also. You need counseling on how to deal with bi-polar disorder and depression, that way you will be able to communicate when and why you are acting the way you do. Are you on any medication? There are some great meds. out there to help with the mood swings. Seriously, don't let this oppurtunity to get help pass you by.

Answer 2

You two have taken the first positive step, counseling. Give it a try. I understand how Bipolar and depression works and it can cause havoc on alot of aspects of your life.

You have been married for 17 years. Is it not worth saving? She has been there through some rough times as well as you have.
Give it a chance and give yourself a break.

Now two things can happen. 1) Mania or 2) total depression. Either of them can get you locked up in a psych unit. Be careful and take your meds.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Stick with it the counseling, please. Dont throw away 17 years of marriage without giving it your all. Stay open minded. Remind yourself that she is a great woman- you married her after all.

I think bipolar would have been diagnosed by now, but depression could be new. Do you have any of these symptoms:
Variation of mood during the day. It's often worse in the morning, improving as the day goes on - but the pattern can be the other way around.
Disturbed sleep, usually waking early and being unable to get back to sleep
A general slowing down of thought, speech and movement
Feelings of anxiety
Tearfulness for no reason
Short temper
Lack of energy and constant exhaustion
Inability to enjoy things
Lack of concentration
Difficulty making decisions
Feeling that you're forgetful
Negative thoughts about the future
Feelings of guilt
Loss of identity
Blaming self and low self-esteem
Feelings of hopelessness and despair
Unrealistic sense of failure
Loneliness, even when around others
Becoming preoccupied with illness
Loss of appetite and resulting loss of weight
Reduced desire for sex

Answer 4

see where counselling takes you first. If you are bipolar and have depression you doctor should make sure you are taking the right meds. It's very hard to effectively work on problems when the brain chemicals are scrambled. Ask her to be evaluated for depression too.

Answer 5

A lot depends on what goes on in your life outside your marriage, such as your job and so forth. If it has its share of stress, then perhaps it's manifesting itself at home. Maybe it's the same situation for her.

Mind you I'm guessing, but stress works in STRANGE ways, I have no doubt that in the long run, it has killed more people than bullets.

Answer 6

One of the secrets to a non-hostile marriage is meet each other in the middle on every aspect of the marriage.

Answer 7

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