wE HAVE A SON AND WERE SEPARATED, POTENTIAL DIVORCE IN THIS YEAR. WHENEVER I GO TO PICK HIM UP OR DROP HIM OFF. I JUST WANT TO GRAB HER AND KISS AND HOLD HER AGAIN. I'VE TOLD HER DOZENS OF TIMES I WANT TO WORK IT OUT, AND I GET PUSHED AWAY. DIVORCE OR BE STEADY AND WAIT IT OUT?
2007-01-01 02:16:41 · 12 answers · asked by t t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be calm, and pray for wisdom. Too many women today feel powerful, and have too muchfun pushing men around. If you show that you are firm, and pray for her, it may just get you a good family.
2007-01-01 02:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by JOYCE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be pushing you away to test your limits. My husband recently did this to me in a fight. It was very difficult for me, but it made me open my eyes a little bit and realize I can't always be in control of every situation. Maybe you should try pretending like you don't care. If she does still love you and is pushing you away to test you, she may just get scared enough to come to you.
Otherwise, I would say this is probably a lost cause. I don't know the situation but I am sure you are hurting and nothing anyone says here can change that or make it better. Don't hang on to someone who does not feel the same way about you, everyone deserves better than that. Stay strong, love your son and eventually, little by little, the pain will go away.
Good luck ;-)
2007-01-01 03:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is the one that wants the divorce then don't do anything. If she wants it let her go file the papers. Continue being the good dad that it sounds like you are and don't let her know how you are feeling about her. Some women feed on that as long as she knows she has you under her thumb ,she will continue. But when she starts to wonder why you are not falling all over her normal women can't help but wonder and it might put the shoe on the other foot.Just pick up your son , go, don't tell her details on where you go ,nothing , and see what happens.
2007-01-01 02:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest counselling and /or separated parents parenting classes to that you are amicably going to be able to raise you son jointly. But know that she is most likely not going to be interested in continuing a relationship with you.
2007-01-01 02:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mari N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's idea for the separation? Yours or hers....If it was hers she may be ready to move on...Show her how much you love her and will try to make it work. And, show her that your listening to her and that her opinion on things matter. Worst thing you can do is have tunnel vision and it be all about your feelings. GoodLUck
2007-01-01 02:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this , as much as it will hurt you .. you must move on , and I know this is hard , but as I think someone already said , she has made up her mind.
divorce seems like its looming in your future .
I wish you luck and happiness with someone else
2007-01-01 03:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by krashing_now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her your willing to work on it. She might change her mind about the divorce or maybe not.
2007-01-01 02:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by laney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants a divorce give it to her, she has already closed her mind to "working it out"... move on, dear
2007-01-01 02:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push at her just quietly wait it out.
2007-01-01 02:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she wants to be with you anymore....try and talk to her to figure it out but it may be time to just move on...good luck
2007-01-01 02:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋