I have a close friend who seems to cheat on his fiancee. He even tried to get with me at some point. Although I know a majority of people will say its not your place to say anything to her and why ruin what she doesnt know- HOW can she NOT know that he cheats? I usually picked up on suspicious things when my x was cheating.
2007-01-01 01:28:44 · 11 answers · asked by Jene 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
by the way- I dont know his fiancee- he seems to steer clear of her knowing he has female friends. 5 years I been friends with him!
2007-01-01 01:45:29 · update #1
sometimes people are in complete denial about those they love. even if u did tell her, she may hate u for it, and stay with him. so either way u most likely won't have gotten the results u had hoped for. true if it were me i would want to know, but than again she may not be mature enough to see it for what it is.
2007-01-01 09:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...for a close friend where is your loyalty?...First you don't make sure to find a way for her to know (BEFORE she marry's this jerk)...and then you judge her, saying how could she not know?....You know my husband was a closet drinker (vodka) for 8 years and I did not know!...There are those that can not believe I did not know....but when you love some one and you trust them, you generally are no "looking" for signs...Drop her a note...you don't have to sign it if you don't want to...but at least get that little something into her head that there might be something she needs to research...Then if she should come to you and ask..."Have you heard anything regarding this?...You could say...If I did , would you really really want to know?"....Go from there...It would be better to save her from her life being ruined for years...than to try and save your friendship...Be a REAL friend...help her.
2007-01-01 09:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend may very well know what's going on, but hopes that he will stop! Think about if telling your friend will help or hurt your friendship. Try sending her an anonymous letter and let her know the name of the person he's cheating with or any evidence that you may have.
2007-01-01 09:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by ju-ju 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever consider why all the men in your life seem to cheat? And, why you always seem suspicious of the men in your life?? Ever consider what your contribution is to this equation??? Give it some thought before you rush off to tattle on your 'friend'...
2007-01-01 09:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say tell her. Reason being, she should know what is going on behind her back before things get too serious, like marriage, or kids. If she goes on without knowing, it will make for a heartbroken woman and a destroyed marriage.
2007-01-01 09:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some folks are blissfully unaware, some don't want to know, etc. etc. The key to me would be do you think she'd appreciate knowing and if so, tell her. He'll eventually be caught if she wants to catch him--she may not want to do so and figures his cheating is the price she has to pay.
2007-01-01 09:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
catch him by trick.Tell ur frnd that u will try 2 get close 2 ur frnd and if he gets close 2 u means he is a cheater.Then act getting close 2 him and let ur frnd come 2 know the truth.But b4 trying 2 get close 2 him ur frnd shud know u r acting.
2007-01-01 09:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by Rohit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you are going to test him
go to his home night "of course after telling your friend"
invite him to have you for a night in his bed
take a camera with you to record his answer
when he begins to flirt you call your friend
2007-01-01 09:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by luckyducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may already know, he's your friend, so she wouldn't tell you - most likely. Most women do know.
2007-01-01 09:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mustn't be the one to tell her - talk to your friend and tell him how it makes you feel
2007-01-01 09:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋