I saw an e-mail he sent a women telling her he has a hard-on looking at her body, and wants to hear from her. I'm upset and don't know what to do help me pls......
2007-01-01 01:23:45 · 20 answers · asked by wolf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2007-01-01 01:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him now, that is a total deal breaker...while he hasn't, that we know of, been physically unfaithful to you, he is being unfaithful to you in his thoughts and words to another woman...if he is doing this now, it is only a matter of time before he does the real thing...y'all aren't even married yet...He is obviously not ready for a relationship of this magnitude with you or anyone else, for that matter!
This is kinda different that looking at porn on the net, that's kind of a one sided thing that guys do, not all guys but a lot of guys...if they are looking at vids or pics, (as long as it's not child or animal related) that kind of internet use is really no different than having a Penthouse in the bathroom cabinet or in the drawer beside the bed...
Your fiance seems to want to interact with other women so this is a huge issue...
Get a screen shot of the e-mail, print it or e-mail it to yourself before he gets a chance to scrub the computer and confront him...
Remember, this is a person you mean to spend the rest of your life with and they are already being dishonest in your relationship.
Deal breaker, totally!
2007-01-01 02:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by nackawicbean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The internet sex chats can be alot like interactive porn. He probably just wants a talking picture. But I will tell you that alot of people can meet really easily. He is obviously interested in sleeping other people and he may act it out eventually. The funny thing is that there are alot of men on the internet acting as women. So who and what is he really talking to?
2007-01-01 03:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by Simone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's cheating. It isn't so much an issue of really cheating, but trust. Now you know you can't count on him, and you don't know if/when he is going to cheat and he may have already. Apparently he has no respect for you or he wouldn't do that.
You can always forgive him, but it won't matter. You don't have trust anymore. I would never want anyone that wants someone else.
Most people stay together for the same reason they don' t quit their job. They are scared. Scared of wasting all that time they spent on someone. Scared of being alone, and scared of making the wrong decision.
I guarantee there are others out there. You deserve better.
2007-01-01 01:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by Computer Dr. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make a copy of the email he sent the other woman and then send him a email putting another man's name at the top instead of his and say something like "I really enjoyed chatting with you the other night and can't wait to chat with you again." Then when he opens the email he'll think you meant to send it to someone else and when he confronts you with it as I'm sure he will hand him the letter he emailed the other woman and say "Now maybe you know how I felt when I opened this email you sent this other woman." then go on to say, "the only difference here is I sent you this email on purpose to open your eyes where as you sent this other woman a email behind my back not thinking I'd find out about it." Then see what he has to say. ;o)
2007-01-01 02:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he might be suffering from INTERNET ADDICTION SYNDOME a recently defined alment - similiar to a drug addiction.
confront it head on.
ask a friend, or clergy person that you both trust to get in the middle
check if he's been on yahoo answers frequently ( a good place to meet women - especially lonely and fruistratred ones - by the way are you available later to night - we can discuss this whole thing over a cup of coffee, tea and a negligee. Oooops. sorry I slipped. )
good luck - not a easy battle to have to deal with (cuming from someone in his shoes )
2007-01-01 01:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my heavens, does not sound good... sounds like he is immature and not ready for a commitment. Give him back his ring, do not marry this man whatever you do. You cannot change a dog's black spots, you will not be able to change him once you marry.. he will have to make the chances.. does not seem he is ready just yet.. Good Luck..
2007-01-01 01:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront him, tell him you're in the real world for him. Make him decide if he wants to live in fantasy cyber world or be with a real live flesh and blood woman
2007-01-01 01:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over with him and continue being a friend while you sort it out with him. Cancel the wedding plans until you are satisfied with who he is or he has a change. Give it plenty of time. Divorce is expensive.
2007-01-01 02:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously, he is not ready for marriage and will not be ready for some time. He needs to mature a lot.
2007-01-01 01:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by sunny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i suggest u have more talks with him...if u can..at odd times of the day..and try talking sexy with him as often as possible..try to keep him glued to u this way...
also u cud send him mails in the same way as he did writing about his fav things and related stuff....maybe photographs of urself...he shud be happy this way..
2007-01-01 01:28:56 · answer #11 · answered by shanthicharuvil 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋